We all hope to find certain things in a partner. Many people want many things in a partner, as well as in life, but they simply don’t know the best way or even the best approach to go about getting it. So I thought I’d write this article in hopes to help with giving a few tops on the best method to getting what you want, but more so, to improve your chances at getting it. We all need to be willing to go out on a limb sometimes and to give situations our best shot, and especially if and when we want something bad enough. The following is a list of six ways to improve your chances at getting the guy or girl that you want.
Here’s the list:
1. Keep it real and be authentic.
Don’t put on an act. Be yourself, and be proud of who you are. Show a person how amazing you are by just being you. No two people are alike, so show the person you’re interested in how you differ from anyone else. You have your own certain attributes and specific characteristics, and I’m sure, many idiosyncrasies to go along with them that the person might come to love. Besides, if the person you’re going after is your best possible match, they’re going to love you for you, and not some version of you that you’ll create while trying to impress them. Impress them by being authentic. In this day and age, many people try so hard to impress someone with things to make them seem like better catches. But if someone’s intentions are pure and they’re looking for someone who has depth and substance, they’ll like appreciate a person who is authentic and genuine over some fake act that you might be putting on, trying to impress them.
2. Be honest.
Honesty is everything. And many people love the fact that you’re honest, even if it may seem that it makes you less appealing of a match at times. Everyone wants a partner who they can trust, confide in, and who they can build a foundation with. You can’t build a foundation on lies or dishonesty. Building trust is essential and it starts from day one when meeting someone. Don’t break the glass by lying early on, or at any point while dating or in a relationship. Let someone fall in love with your honesty, because trust me when I say that they’ll respect you for it.
3. Be confident and secure.
Um, I said confident folks, not arrogant. Put your ego aside, put your chin back down so that it’s aligned with your shoulders, and get off of your high horse. I’m sure that the person you’re into isn’t going to be attracted to someone who thinks that they’re royalty. Be confident with who you are and what you have to offer in a relationship. Be secure with how you look, how you talk, how you act, and show your true self. But remain humble. Being humble doesn’t mean being insecure, so be sure of yourself, but with room for improvement. Remember, no one’s perfect. Not the person you’re into, and not you, so embrace your imperfections, but do so with confidence.
4. Don’t share too much, too soon.
It’s important to be open book, and to be willing to let your guard down, and share things with someone. But sharing and being open book should develop over time. You don’t need to put it all out there when you first meet someone or even during early dating. Embrace the chemistry and attraction at first, and then slowly ease into a person getting to know you on a deeper level. Don’t scare them off too soon by giving them your whole life story. If things go well, you’ll have a lifetime to share things with the person.
5. Be patient and understanding.
Don’t be in a rush to jump right in a relationship or Heaven’s forbid, marry someone and build a family. It’s great to know what you want and to go after it. But if you throw a curveball at someone, saying that you want or expect everything right away, it might push someone away. There’s a way of talking openly about your future wants and goals without making a person feel as though you want those things with them, and ASAP. Let your feelings and love develop over time.
Having said that, it’s imperative to be on the same page and to go at the same pace when it comes to present and future plans. Just don’t make the person feel as though you’re jumping the gun, before they even know whether or not they’re into you. Be patient and understanding to the fact that they might be desiring different things or wanting to go at a different pace. Be on the same page, and be patient enough to get to know what they’re preferences are in that regard. And when the appropriate time comes to discuss these things in more depth, be open to compromising if you see that your relationship is progressing and worth fighting for.
6. Be appreciative.
Sounds easy, right? Well, you’d e surprised at how many people lack the common courtesy and kindness to simply say please and thank you. Remember to have good manners, to have poise, to show kindness, to be selfless, giving, and to show your appreciation to one another. be thankful for someone making the time to even spend with you. Say thank you and be grateful when people take the time out of their day to spend it with you. Be courteous and appreciative of even the little things that the other person does. A little sign of appreciation can go along way. And this includes how you treat workers and people who are serving you.
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