It’s important to be comfortable with yourself, and despite the situation that you’re in. You should feel comfortable with being who you are at your core, and you should be authentic and genuine as much as possible. Many times, other people are close minded, judgmental, or give off an uneasy energy which makes people feel as if they can’t be as open as they’d like to be. It’s imperative that we don’t let others change us in a negative manner, despite the discomfort or uneasiness that they might feel when it comes to being more open about who you are, your likes, your dislikes, and even when it comes to talking about your past or things that you’ve experienced in life.
If you can’t be comfortable in a relationship, and by comfortable, I’m referring to acting as authentic as humanly possible, then you shouldn’t be in that relationship. No one should ever make you feel as if you have to walk on eggshells or as if you can’t be yourself because they’re uneasy about it. You be you, regardless of how it might affect other people. You see, at the end of the day, if you can’t be your authentic self in a relationship, you’re never going to be as happy as you would have if you weren’t having to play a role, trying to impress, or putting on some show in order to please the other person so that they’ll be more comfortable. That’s simply not how things work in life, or at least, it’s not how things should work.
You should not only feel comfortable being yourself, but you should feel comfortable being as open as you want to be in your relationship when it comes to expressing yourself and sharing things with your partner. Not everyone is open book and that might work for some people, but I truly believe that if you want to have the best chance at a relationship working out, where you’re both happy, and where you might even feel as if you’re best friends at times, you need to feel comfortable and be open book to a certain extent. Feeling comfortable and being open enough to share with one another is imperative for every healthy and happy relationship.
You should never have to put on an act or not be yourself because someone else can’t handle it. And supposing that they’re jealous or uncomfortable hearing the truth and really getting to know who you are at your core, it’s irrelevant, because the right person for you, and someone who is in an emotionally healthy place in life will love, accept, and even adore the fact that you’re so real and authentic. You should be able to be open to the point where you feel heard, and where you feel as if the person that you’re with likes you for you, and not some front or version of you that you’re displaying so that they like you more or so that they’ll feel more comfortable. Like I said, if you can’t be yourself in a relationship, then you’re likely in the wrong relationship, so you should find someone else who you’ll be more comfortable with and who will love and accept you for who you really are.