How to Deal with Haters and Toxic People

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Not everyone is going to like what you do in life. But the fact remains, you can’t please everyone. Some people will be haters, and hate on you, what you do, or even despise you for striving towards your goals. There will always be people that don’t want you to succeed, and when they feel that you’re on the right track, working hard, feeling motivated and driven, and striving towards your goals, they might try to bring you down.


It’s always important to avoid toxic people and the types of people that aren’t going to be supportive or at the very least give constructive criticism. You should be cautious with who you bring close into your lives. You should be picky with your friendships, and avoid making friends that aren’t real. Not everyone is always going to have your best interest at heart, and it’s important to know that.


You can’t expect that everyone will have a pure heart, just because you do or because your intentions are pure. In life, there will be friends that secretly want you to fail and try to get close to you, perhaps solely just to try to bring you down in some way. But the truth is, no one can bring you down if you’re strong and resilient to the point where frankly, you don’t give a damn. Don’t give me wrong,


I’m not saying that you shouldn’t give a damn what people think about what you do, how you act, what you say, or even how you look. My point is that you should like yourself and be confident enough with who you are inside and out, and what you do in life to the point where other’s opinions won’t affect you negatively or bring you down.


We should all have enough inner strength and self-confidence that we’re able to listen to the opinions of others, but ultimately make decisions for ourselves in life that we’ll benefit from. People that try to drag others down like those throughout social media (also known as trolls if you will) will always try to bring you down if they can or at least try to provoke some type of reaction whether good or bad. If this tends to happen more with popularity and fame, so if you’re getting a lot of hate mail, hey, you must be doing something right!


Once again, those types of people have way too much time on their hands, and you shouldn’t bother listening to them. People that try to bring others down in life are more than likely miserable people on the inside. Miserable people are going to be miserable despite how you respond to what they say. This is one of the main reasons why it’s so imperative to keep in mind that you don’t have to respond to toxic people or negative energy, because it will only affect you in a negative way. It’s better to avoid nasty people whenever possible, because reacting and responding to them won’t get you very far.


You don’t need to stoop down to the level of a toxic person. If anything, use your passion, anger, or even hurt feelings that toxic people might provoke within you as fuel and strive even harder towards your goals, and feel even more strength from within.

 

 

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Being a writer or a blogger like me, I tend to get a lot of opinions from others. Whether people tell me how they feel in person, via text, or even by leaving comments throughout social media or directly on my blogs, everyone has an opinion. But as a writer, you have to have enough inner strength and resilience to be able to take it with a grain of rice. If someone doesn’t like you, you don’t have to convince them to like you or to be a fan. One less toxic person in your life, the better off you are. One less person that dislikes you to stick around and read your writing, the better.


Everyone is not always going to like you. If everyone liked me personally, that alone could likely become overwhelming. I don’t need everyone to like me, as long as they’re not harassing me in any way or trying to bring me down in life. What people say can’t really hurt you, me, or anyone if you build enough inner strength. At least not on a very deep level, even if you’re the sensitive type like me.


Hate mail or hateful commentary that I receive on things that I write are bound to happen and I accept them. Other writers should do the same. It doesn’t matter if you’re a writer or in regards to any other line of work, people will always have an opinion. Look, not everyone is going to agree with the way that I write, the way that I think, or the way that I live my life. It’s the same for everyone. But as long as you like yourself enough and feel good about what you’re doing, and as long as your intentions are pure and you’re doing something positive with your life, don’t worry about what others think.


If other people want to waste their lives going downhill, and making a choice consuming themselves with what you, me, or others are doing in life, don’t let it bother you. Let people waste their time if that’s what they want to do with their lives. Just don’t give people like that the time of day or waste your energy thinking about anything along the lines of revenge, or even consuming yourself with thoughts of how could they say this or that. Just live your life, be happy, and concentrate on what will bring more happiness into your life, how to get there, and keep going. 

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Anne Cohen

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Anne Cohen is a lifestyle and relationship blogger based in Los Angeles, CA. Her blogs are Anne Cohen and Anne Cohen Writes. She contributes to various publications including The Huffington Post, Elite Daily, and many more. She's passionate about love, writing, chess, and more than anything, her two kids.
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7 thoughts on “How to Deal with Haters and Toxic People

  1. Anne Cohen you’re the most fucking toxic person I’ve ever had the chance to encounter on the internet. You made a whole god damn article on how Beauty and the Beast is an evil movie that brain washes little girls into believing random shit that makes zero sense. Ususally I would never make a hate post on some random persons blog.. but you really really deserve this Anne. You really do. There’s fucking kids getting bomb and raped and all kinds of fucked up shit and you make an article about Beauty and the Beast being a harm to little girls… you’re a cunt. I’m a nice guy. I really am. But fuck you Anne Cohen. You don’t even realize how mad you make me. Yes you’re a very attractive lady…. and obviously you know… just juding by all your vain ass articles… But you’re fucked in the head man. Like seriously you’re a sad person. You’re Way too caught up in your life and the random bull
    shit you think of man. Please stop writing. Please.

    1. Noah, I want to thank you so much for proving the whole point of the article above. It almost feels like a test. What’s wrong – Did I turn you down or something. Seriously though, I don’t think I even wrote an article about Beauty and The Beast, so you might even have the wrong person. Show me the link to my article that you “hate” so much. Writing back to haters and toxic people is usually pointless, but for me, at times where someone as wonderful as yourself helps me in such a way to prove the whole point in my article, I just want to thank you. Sending you love, and positive vibes. P.S. If by some chance I did turn you down, ignore, or avoid you, I’m sorry, but you see, my instincts are usually right, and I would never date someone that was hateful or that would write such a mean comment to “anyone,” let alone myself. G-d Bless.

    2. Noah Spargo, the way you talk, no offense, you sound uneducated and low class. Too bad your mother didn’t teach you how to act.

    3. Nick, Nick, Nick…. you know, it’s one thing for you to disagree with Anne, but it’s another to act like a complete wank and judge someone you don’t even know.

      If you don’t like what Annie writes, DON’T READ HER BLOG. It’s that simple. I’d also like to point out the irony of perfectly proving the very point she was trying to make. You might as well be wearing a t-shirt that says, “I’m Anne Cohen’s little bitch!”

      The only thing you’ve managed to accomplish with your stupid comment is prove what an idiot you are.

      Thanks for stopping by. Toodles! You DICK!

    4. Sorry, I owe you an apology, Noah. I got your name wrong. My bad.

      But you’re still a dick. And a douche. And a tool. And say what you want about me, but at least I can spell.

    5. Noah, funny, I actually just opened my Twitter and now I see what you were referring to. “Walt Disney Confessions Rage” is someone else’s blog, and the article is titled, “Why Beauty and the Beast is Not About Stockholm Syndrome.” I didn’t write that article. Someone merely tagged me in their post on Twitter. I actually don’t even know the writer. Just thought I’d let you know. And even if you took one look at my posts, you’d see that they’re predominantly about promoting love, being a good person, being kind, and if anything, I’ve written many articles about how important it is to love a person for who they are on the inside, so I really don’t see why you would criticize me on a personal level anyway, when you don’t even know me. At first, I just figured that you were someone that I turned down, and perhaps you felt bitter or something, as hubris as that sounds. But after having seen that article, I think that you simply didn’t like what you read, thought that I wrote it, and decided to comment. Either way though, in my own humble opinion, nastiness is not the way to go.

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