Feeling Optimistic with the Right Match

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When you finally find someone that you truly love and want to spend the rest of your life with, you appreciate the fact that you have them, that you’ve found them, and start to view life as even more beautiful than perhaps it’s ever seemed before. At least, that’s how you’re supposed to feel when you’re with the right person. Feeling optimistic is something that should naturally happen when you’re with the right person. When you’re with the right person, you’ll feel happy inside, and it’ll seem almost as if you love life even more than you did before the person was in your life. You’ll appreciate having that person in your life, and you’ll look forward to starting a life and future with them.


You might change from someone that would’ve been considered pessimistic or a bit hopeless as far as finding true love goes (or even believing in love for that matter) into someone that believes and embraces their loved one as the most beautiful of gifts. You might even turn into more of the type that appreciates the beauty in love, and in life. Maybe you’ll even become more of an optimist. Suddenly the grass will seem greener, but in your own yard, because all of the things that you’ve been wanting for so long are just now starting to happen in your life. You’ll feel happy, excited, and blessed that you’ve found the person that you’ve been searching for. You’ll feel relieved, and as if you can stop searching, because your love is finally here at last.


If you’re not feeling excited and optimistic about starting your life and having a future with someone, but instead you’re viewing your life in a way in which you feel the best is over, instead of the best is yet to come, then you either need to change your views, and recognize how pessimistic you’re acting or you simply might not be with the right person. It’s important to realize that you might experience happier moments with a person when they’re the right match. However, if you’re not a happy person that feels fulfilled and good about yourself and your life first, you’ll never be truly happy in life, let alone with a partner.


You need to remember that if you’re not a happy and whole person yourself with who you are, how you look, how you act, what you have in life, and what you’ve accomplished, nothing will ever seem good enough. If you’re living your life in such a way where you’re unhappy with yourself, whether you’re single or not, you’ll never feel happy with anyone. You need to be whole and happy first, and before you’ll be capable of loving another person to the fullest. You can’t expect that another person is going to create happiness within you. That’s something that you need to work on yourself.


At the end of the day, what’s important is to be with someone that you love and that loves you back, and for all of the right reasons. You should be with someone that makes you feel happy and alive. The right match will bring out the best in you. When someone brings out the worst in you, it’s one of the easiest tell-tale signs to know that they’re not the right match for you.


Last but not least, remember to stay optimistic. When someone that’s pessimistic hears a statement as such, a sure way to know that they’re pessimistic is by their natural instinct upon hearing those words to think negatively. You see, an optimistic and generally happy person would feel calm and inspired by that statement. Someone that’s pessimistic or lacks the belief in true love will feel (even if they don’t say anything out loud) as if optimism isn’t realistic. That’s all I need to say about that, because if someone listens to their thoughts when they read that “we should stay optimistic,” and they instinctively hear a negative thought in the back o f their mind, then it’s important to change that toxic and negative pattern of thinking.


When you’re with the right person, not only is the best part of your life not over, but it hasn’t even begun.
This statement doesn’t reflect age, time lost, or anything else, because in true love, when you find your other half (your besheret), your life has just begun. It’s funny, as I write that, I’m imagining Karen Carpenter singing… I know, I know, enough with the musical references. I can’t help myself. It’s my thing. I hope you all have a great rest of your week.

Anne Cohen

Founder, Owner, Writer, and Editor at Anne Cohen Writes
Anne Cohen is a lifestyle and relationship blogger based in Los Angeles, CA. Her blogs are Anne Cohen and Anne Cohen Writes. She contributes to various publications including The Huffington Post, Elite Daily, and many more. She's passionate about love, writing, chess, and more than anything, her two kids.

4 thoughts on “Feeling Optimistic with the Right Match

  1. Anne, you’re insights are amazing!! I truly believe that being optimistic is a powerful booster and affirmation for paving the way to what you really want. Just as positive energy attracts more positive energy, the same concept can be applied to feeling sorry for yourself. If I choose to want something, then I must go out and get it, but how? After reading your articles, I decided I’m going to start a journal to note what I’m grateful for, and the life I want to live in the next 2 months.

    I agree that it starts with ‘YOU’ first before you find the right match. As logical as it is, you certainly can’t give money if you don’t have money, so it’s impossible to give love without being LOVE.

    I know that my soul-mate wants someone that’s outgoing and positive and has a great perspective on life. So how the heck will I attract my soul-mate if I keep making excuses and play the same stories I tell myself that “it’s hard these day”. I know that it’s not easy to stay optimistic, especially in the beginning of ‘this mind set’ because of the circle of friends I associate with, and the emotional habits I unconsciously developed throughout my dating experience. I’m going to take it one day at a time 🙂

    Anne, you’re a force to be reckoned with regarding the dating scene! I can tell that you’re pouring your heart and soul with these articles and I’m resonating with these powerful lines of poetry on your blog.

    Great articles!

    1. Thank you Isabella for your sweet comment. I love how you express yourself. I agree that one day at a time is the way to go. I’m in the same boat! Thanks again 🙂

  2. I agree Anne you have to be happy with YOU first. You know when you are with the right one because life is just so much better, happier and you feel alive. #blogsharelearn

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