Out of all of the things that we look for in a match, sometimes, many people overlook seeing a person’s true colours. Now, when I say true colours, I’m referring to who a person is deep down in their core. And the only way to truly know someone and see who they are at their core, is to get to know them on a deeper level. And not only by talking, asking good questions, and listening, but also, by seeing how a person acts in their day to day lives. Watch how they interact with others, including workers, co-workers, employees, while on the phone with others, how they speak to members of their family, their children perhaps, as well as how they speak to their friends. As well, it’s important to see how empathetic they are to people who are less fortunate and in need.
One of the biggest tell signs that someone isn’t who they claim to be, is by how kind and compassionate they are to people who are less fortunate. Believe it or not, many people will treat others in such a poor manner, and solely because of their financial status. Nothing is worse than being around people who lack empathy. For me personally, I find it to be incredibly difficult to date someone who doesn’t care about those who are less fortunate, lacks a giving nature, and says things like, “He should just go get a job! He can work just like everyone else.” And without even knowing their story. “You don’t know a person until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.” Such a good quote, and I’m not sure who said it first, but clearly, he or she was a very wise, kind, and empathetic soul. We need to stop judging people before we really know them.
People who are more compassionate tend to feel sad when they see others in need, and if they’re able to, they try to help them in any way that they can. But unfortunately, some people are cold, angry, untrusting, judgemental, and lack empathy. But what those types of people don’t understand, is that, “You can’t judge a book by its cover.” Really, there are so many quotes that have been written by people who are empathetic and hold such big and beautiful hearts. Those are the types of people to surround yourself with, to hold close to you, and yes, to date as well. When you’re looking for a partner in life, make sure that they’re empathetic, because it shows that they have a soul—a beautiful soul.
Think about it, we all want a partner who will be loving, giving, warm, kind, and affectionate. We want a partner to be our best friend and someone who we can stand beside, who will lift us up when in need and vice versa. We want a partner who will be our rock, our strength when we’re weak, and someone who will carry love and kindness in their heart. Someone who will wrap their arms around us when we’re a little blue or going through a rough time. Someone who will be our biggest fan and give us the emotional love and support that we desire. A person who lacks empathy likely won’t be sensitive to anyone’s needs except for their own.
When someone lacks empathy for others, they usually carry other ugly traits as well, such as being selfish, insensitive, arrogant, and greedy. And I must say, those are some ugly qualities! Honestly, if you’re dating someone who lacks compassion and empathy towards others, think twice before continuing to date them. If a person doesn’t have a kind heart, if they lack empathy and compassion for others, and if they aren’t thoughtful, selfless, and sweet, they’re not a keeper. Be with a kind soul. One who will see beauty in everything. Someone who will find inner beauty to be one of the most beautiful qualities in another. And last but not least, make sure that you’re compassionate enough. Sometimes we all get caught up in our lives, on a mission to get what we want, and we forget all of the beautiful blessings that we have, not realizing that many, many others don’t have the same simple luxuries that we do.
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