When it comes to having a relationship where both people feel adequately happy and satisfied, it takes hard work. But more than hard work, it takes two people that are both willing to compromise, and understand that it’s never about winning or losing when there are disagreements. But more so, it’s about knowing the difference between when you should let things slide, and when you should acknowledge them as a bigger deal.
Relationships take a certain amount of give and take, but it’s important not to make little things a big deal or to be the type of person who complains all of the time. It’s always best to nip things in the bud, and to try to solve issues early on, rather than ignore them, sweep them under the rug, or postpone them for a later point. Nipping things in the bud is a great way to solve problems early on, because that’s usually the best way of handling issues before they become unmanageable or too big.
Postponing issues or sweeping them under the rug will leave one or both people in the relationship feeling unsettled and unhappy, because whatever might be bothering them was left unaddressed. Postponing, avoiding, or ignoring issues altogether won’t solve them. But you have to know the difference between when something really is an issue, and when something shouldn’t really be that big of a deal. Everything can’t be an issue, and everything is not worth fighting over.
You have to remember that at the end of the day, you want to feel happy and in love with your partner, so your goal shouldn’t be to win an argument or to have the upper hand in your relationship. Your goal should be to come up with resolution to disagreements, to find peace in situations, and to come up with solutions to issues and things that concern you and your partner. Things should be fair in relationships, and they definitely take a certain amount of give and take so that both people feel content and at peace.
Things should never be one-sided where one person feels satisfied and as if everything is the way that they want things to be, while the other person feels inadequate or less satisfied in certain areas. It’s important to focus on making the other person happy in a relationship, and that takes being selfless and giving to your partner, even at times when it might seem difficult to be that way. Don’t settle for being in a relationship with someone who wants everything their way, never gives back, and never reciprocates your love and kind gestures.
Be with someone who will show you how much they love and appreciate you through their words and actions. Think about it, when someone truly loves you, they’ll want you to feel good and satisfied and many times, they will put you and your wants and needs above their own. After all, that is one of the best signs of knowing that someone truly loves you. They’ll be giving, selfless, and they’ll show you how much they love and care for you through their actions.
You can’t fix or change the way that other people think or act. However, you can try to express your feelings and thoughts to your partner, and set a good example of having good communication by talking to your partner with poise, love, and kindness. While addressing your concerns in a healthy manner as such, your partner is bound to listen much more than they would if you were to be nasty or angry in your approach.
Remember, be sweet and you’ll get much further. But never avoid saying the things that concern you, and don’t avoid being brutally honest or direct. If something is bothering or upsetting you, address it to your partner, and let them know that it’s really bothering you, and that it’s been on your mind. Both people should have a good comfort level, and enough of one so that they will both feel at ease to discuss nearly anything with one another. This is yet another reason why it’s great to be best friends with your partner.
If you’re in a relationship with someone and the other person never seems to be willing to compromise, give, or give in at times, your relationship is one-sided. And when your partner won’t even bother or agree to sitting down, and brainstorming with you, so you can come up with some ideas or possible solutions together as far as how things can be more fair, so that you’ll both feel happy and satisfied, something needs to change. So when communication together doesn’t work or help in any way, you might have to consider either taking a step back from the relationship or seeking professional advice.
Last, but not least, when two people truly want to make their relationship work, they need to focus on maintaining balance and a sense of fairness in their relationship. You can’t expect to be in a relationship where only one person feels happy and satisfied. Learn to compromise. Take some time out and treat your partner and your relationship as a priority. Sit down and have a meaningful conversation so you can both freely and openly discuss some possible solutions to both of your concerns. And be willing to accept, give, and give in at times.
It’s easy to say that relationships take compromise and give and take, but both people in a relationship need to actively care enough to put that statement into action. Make the effort to work on your issues by making the time to have healthy communication. Be willing to bite your tongue and not complain about every little thing that bothers you. But recognize that when something is important to you, that you should address it early on by nipping it in the bud and approaching your partner about it in a loving, peaceful, yet direct way. And remember, compromise, give, and be willing to give in at times. Remember, at the end of the day, it’s all about creating and maintaining happiness and peace.
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