We’re all beautiful in different ways. Some of us are beautiful on the outside, some of us on the inside, and then some of us have beautiful qualities and characteristics that nearly anyone could fall in love with. Many people look at us and only see our exterior. But that’s not a healthy way to go about life. Believe it or not, many people will look solely at superficial things like beauty, power, money, and what you can do for them in their life, and they think to themselves how they can benefit from the person. Many people have simply gone off the deep end and have become entirely superficial, and it’s mostly to those people whom I’m writing this article.
When looking for that one special someone, your true soulmate, a companion in life, a partner, a best friend, and someone who you can share a long lasting and meaningful relationship with, you need to look past the superficial things. Physical attraction is not enough. You need to look at the big picture, get to know people on a deeper level, and see past the exterior beauty, the money, the power, the fame, or the lack of all of these things. You need to see a person for who they really are in their core. Look at a person’s core values and beliefs, their inner beauty, and how they are in different ways. Look at how well you mesh together, how well you communicate with one another, how well things flow, and how natural things seem to be when you spend time together. Look at their temperament, how kind they are to strangers, to workers, and to those who are less fortunate.
There are many things that we should be looking for when we’re hoping to find our best possible match. For starters, you should make sure that you’re both looking for the same things right now, as well as ultimately, and in the future. Make sure that you’re on the same page and that your ultimate long term goals are aligned. And of course, there’s chemistry. Chemistry is a must for every couple. You can feel chemistry from laughter, from kindness, intelligence, or from simply “getting each other.” If you don’t feel chemistry with one another, the feelings won’t grow—no matter how much you learn to love certain things about them. There has to be chemistry. And attraction, well, that’s a “must have” as well. You have to at least be a little attracted to each other at first. Obviously, looks aren’t everything—which is the main point of this article. You see, as you get to know someone on a deeper level, you should naturally become even more attracted to the person. That is, when you’re truly compatible with one another, and when you’re with the right person.
It’s true what they say—we all usually know instantly, and right off the bat when the feeling is there or not. For me, it merely takes a few seconds to know whether or not there’s any attraction when I first meet someone. But after you get to know someone more and more, the feelings and attraction either grow or diminishes. Remember, it’s all about being with your best possible match. Someone who you’ll feel connected to, comfortable with, someone who in time, you could become best friends with, where you’ll want to share anything and everything with them. Having said that, your best possible match might be beautiful in different ways. They might have certain characteristics and qualities to them, that you never even remotely thought that you’d find appealing or attractive in a person. But when you meet the right person, things flow, and you start to see things in a different light. With the right person, you open up your heart even more, and you start to see the little things as big things. And if you do so with a loving soul, you’ll start to see imperfections, idiosyncrasies, and even little moles and beauty marks as beautiful and perfect.
When your head’s in the right place and when you start to view people for who they really are deep within their core, rather than judge them based on empty and superficial things, you’ll have a much better chance at finding your best possible match. At the end of the day, we all want to be loved and feel that our partner is attracted to us, and in every way. I mean, come on! Who wouldn’t want to know that their partner is crazy attracted to them physically, emotionally, and mentally! We all want our partner to think of us as the best catch, and the best match for them. We all want to feel that they’re attracted to everything in us—which by the way, most of us would settle for a partner who’s attracted to us in merely a couple of different ways. But you get my drift. We want to feel desired. And when we meet someone who we really like, we want them to feel that we’re desirable.
Therefore, we need to set an example by being the type of person who we’re looking for. We need to stop being superficial. We need to stop looking for all of the things that are merely frosting and things that are “nice to have.” But instead, we need to start thinking with our hearts and look deeper. Honestly, if we all looked at the person for who they are more, we’d start to see most, if not, all people as much more beautiful. And take my word for it when I tell you, that in doing so, you’ll even start to feel better about yourself in the process and start to see yourself as more beautiful. There’s something to be said about a person who looks deeper than the surface, behind all of the frosting and exterior beauty, and who sees the reality, and the real picture, which is inner beauty.
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