When It’s O.K. To Be Selfish


You have to do what makes you happy in life. We should all be a complete and whole person before we get into a relationship. And once we’re in a relationship, we should always try to be selfless and giving to our partner, know when to compromise, and always take our partner’s feelings, wants, and needs into consideration. Having said that, we still need to feel somewhat independent and maintain our individuality. And despite how close we are with our partner, we should never forget that we need to feel happy ourselves, and not just be that type of person that constantly gives, but never does anything for ourselves to feel happy.


We all deserve happiness, and there’s nothing wrong with being a little selfish once in awhile, and doing things that make us feel enjoyment in life. When two people feel happy as individuals, they’ll tend to be much happier in a committed relationship, and as a team. If you think about it, the best relationships usually involve two people that felt whole and complete when they were single. And it’s those types of singles that get into a relationship, and feel even more satisfied than when they were single. They feel good enough about themselves enough, that they desire to be more giving and selfless to their partner.


No one should ever have to feel guilty for doing something nice for themselves, and even when it comes to doing things that your partner might not like. You deserve to feel good, and you don’t have to necessarily feel the same way about everything, just because you’re in a relationship with someone. Just because you get into a relationship with someone, doesn’t mean that you have to do all of the same things, or even like all of the same things. Sure, it’s great to have many common interests and connect on as many levels as possible. But once in awhile, it’s our differences that make us feel whole and complete, and it’s letting ourselves do what makes us feel good at times. And that involves being selfish on occasion.


It’s O.K. to be selfish sometimes. Being selfish doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re doing something wrong—You’re not. If you think about it, when you’re a whole and complete person and in a relationship with someone that you truly love, you’re probably going to be selfless and giving on a daily basis. So give yourself a break once in awhile and do something nice for yourself. Do something that makes you feel happy.

Anne Cohen

Founder, Owner, Writer, and Editor at Anne Cohen Writes
Anne Cohen is a lifestyle and relationship blogger based in Los Angeles, CA. Her blogs are Anne Cohen and Anne Cohen Writes. She contributes to various publications including The Huffington Post, Elite Daily, and many more. She's passionate about love, writing, chess, and more than anything, her two kids.

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