I always write about how imperative it is to know your self worth, and to love and value yourself enough not to stay in unhappy or toxic relationships. And I’ve also written things in regards to working hard and putting effort towards every little thing that you do, when a situation is promising. But when push comes to shove, you can’t be the only one fighting for a relationship to work. So I decided to write this article, as a little reminder to love ourselves enough, that when someone wants to walk away, why you should let them.
When one person is doing all of the trying, putting in all of the effort, working on themselves, and doing everything in their power to make their relationship stronger, healthier, and happier, it’s not going to be enough. Both people need to put in the same amount of love and effort into making things work. One-sided relationships won’t last very long, and definitely won’t be happy.
It’s always better to have a conversation about matters as such, rather than just pick your stuff up and leave. Communication is everything in a healthy relationship, so you should definitely communicate your feelings before walking out the door. But once you’ve communicated how you feel, and your partner hears you out, listen to what they have to say, and see if they’re willing to work on the relationship, and put more effort and love into improving things as well. And if they are, then by all means, give it another shot, and keep giving it your all. But if after having a conversation about your concerns, and you see that your partner isn’t doing anything to change his or her ways, then it’s best to close the door on that relationship altogether.
No one should have to do all of the work in a relationship. Part of being in a relationship means being a teammate, and a partner. And you really shouldn’t have to tell someone how to behave, what to say, and what they need to do in order to have a normal, healthy, and happy relationship. But if you find yourself telling your partner how they need to improve, and that information goes in one of their ears and out the other, you’re basically wasting your time.
We should all love ourselves enough to know the difference between a healthy relationship and an unhealthy one. You see, when we value ourselves and we know our self-worth, we don’t stand for being treated poorly or for being the only one giving in a relationship. There are many different ways that couples can give to each other, so they don’t necessarily have to be giving in the same manner. But when one person feels as if their relationship is lopsided, and that they’re the only one who’s trying hard to make things work, then they shouldn’t settle for that relationship, and they should explore the world, and find a better match that will be willing to give their love, and put effort into maintaining a relationship with them.
A huge part of being in a relationship is understanding that it’s not always going to be easy, and you’re going to have to work really hard towards making things better. When it comes to working on your relationship, you also have to be willing to work on yourself, and the truth is, improving ourselves and our relationships, are lifelong things that are part of the journey. This is something that we all need to come to terms with.
If you want a certain type of relationship, you have to be willing to work hard towards getting it, and then maintaining it. You can’t expect for things to improve in your love life if you’re going to sweep things under the rug, avoid confrontation, or if you’re going to avoid drama altogether. You need to be able to communicate your feelings to your partner when you have concerns, and if you’re feeling that your partner simply gave up, and isn’t willing to work on things, then you should just leave.
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