Many times people do things in order to have a drama-free, calm, and peaceful life. Some of the things that people will do in order to keep the peace so to speak is avoid confrontation, sweep things under the rug, or even keep people in the dark on certain matters. However, doing those three things ultimately won’t improve their lives one bit.
Avoiding confrontation is a way of postponing your feelings and avoiding things that bother you as long as possible. When people do that, it’s a way of imploding how they truly feel, and when you implode, you’re bound to explode at some point. This is why it’s important to nip things in the bud, and confront people with your concerns and feelings when they arise, as opposed to letting them build up into something bigger.
As far as sweeping things under the rug, you’re pretending that your feelings don’t matter, and that by avoiding what’s bothering you and how you truly feel, it will somehow go away or disappear. On the contrary, because once again, your imploding your feelings, and at some point you’ll likely explode as well.
When it comes to keeping people in the dark, this is one of the biggest problems that couples have in their relationships. By keeping someone in the dark, you’re basically lying to them by not telling them certain things. People keep their partners in the dark for different reasons. But mostly, they do so to avoid hurting their partner, causing drama in their lives, but mainly to avoid having any turbulence or arguments in their relationship.
All of these three things that people do in relationships not only cause long-term darkness and turbulence for their relationship, but they tend to put a halt on a couple’s growth. As we should all know and embrace, growth and change are things that are naturally supposed to happen in all of our lives. It’s important to live your life in a healthy manner, and to do so, it’s important to develop healthy communication with people. Especially, towards people that you plan to have a future with.
Happiness is like anything else in life, and it takes hard work to attain. Sure, we can have a moment of bliss or a temporary happy feeling. But when it comes to long-term happiness that will be somewhat stable, it’s important to understand that it takes time, love, hard work, and a conscious effort to improve.
Nothing great can come from avoiding having drama in your life. This is why it’s so imperative to work on developing great communication with your partner. If you truly hope to have a successful relationship with someone, it’s important not to do anything to hold one another back from any type of growth.
Every relationship that we experience in life whether romantic, with friends, with family, or anyone else that we meet, it’s important to know how to use your words, control your words, and to think before you speak. Words are very powerful and can either cause true happiness or great pain in others. This is why we should all be cautious with what we say, and how we act.
When it comes to building a life with someone, we all hope that things will go smoothly and in a loving, calm manner. But, if you truly want that type of love and happiness in your relationship, remember to address certain issues, rather than avoid them. Lastly, remember to bring up issues and things that bother you before they grow into bigger issues. It’s imperative to nip things in the bud.
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