A lot of people stay in the bad relationship. This is a fact. What’s also a fact is that a lot of people stay in the bad relationship because of the amount of time they’ve put into their relationship.
This is dumb.
Do you know what the worst justification for staying in a relationship is?
“We’ve been together so long…I don’t want to start over.”
I’ll never understand this logic for the life of me. Think about this – if you invest your money with an investment banker who constantly loses you money, you wouldn’t think twice about chucking the dude. So now imagine that your investment banker is not only losing you money but not even showing up when he’s supposed to be there and calling you names or not even calling you at all or throwing pennies at you while singing songs like, “Ego”.
Not only is your investment banker costing you hard earned money, but he’s also making you feel like crap in the process.
You wouldn’t stay with that banker, would you?
However, we’ll stay with a person who treats us like crap because we’re comfortable with our bad decision because it beats the alternative of potentially finding another bad apple and having to look at the past 3 years as a loss – if we even find somebody else at all.
So we stay with people we have no business being within the first place for much longer than we should in the second place despite every sign that it’s a bad decision in the third place but because we’re lazy in the fourth place so we’ll settle for fifth.
Of Jack Daniels that is, because you hate your bad relationship but you’re looking at your relationship in terms that make no sense. Relationships aren’t investments. They’re the intersection of two people headed in the same direction with shared interests that might render cute kids. You don’t invest time in a relationship. Sure you spend a lot of time in your relationship with your significant other, but you’re actually investing yourself and your soul. If you’re actually investing time in your relationship, then it becomes a business arrangement and I’m guessing you don’t have an MBA.
I know that time is important to people. Hell, I hate people who waste my time with the passion of seven Paris Hilton sex tapes. But if the only good thing I can say about my relationship is that it’s lasted for two years, then there’s a good chance I’ve got quarters in my ass because I’m playing myself.
Remove the quarter, people. Remove the quarter.
Good night and good luck.
A relationship coach and editor of Loveawake dating site by the name of Alex Wise sent over these post via his e-mail subscriber’s list. I typically don’t reprint third-party articles, and I am certainly not endorsing this guy since I don’t know him, but this piece seemed pretty cool to me. I hope you will enjoy the reading as I did.