How can we let go of something that was so beautiful, so pure, and so incredibly amazing. When so much time was spent getting to know a person, getting to know their idiosyncrasies, their cute little gestures, and spending time with them on a daily basis. Whether you’ve grown to become friends with someone and are able to hold a stable and loving friendship after having explored a solely intimate or fully exclusive relationship with them, there’s a step that needs to take place. That step is letting someone go.
In order to be ready to let someone go, it takes a few things. First off, you have to want to move on from your previous situation. If you choose to be friends with someone that you’ve been close with in any way, that’s your choice, and I don’t necessarily feel that anything is wrong with it. That is, if you can both handle it in a positive and loving manner.
You definitely don’t want to be friends with someone if you’re going to keep “hooking up” with them so to speak, or being friends with benefits, or anything of the sort. This especially goes for if you have residual feelings for them or if they have feelings for you still. You can’t have residual feelings for someone that are deeper than friendship if you have hopes in staying friends after being close with one another. You need to let a person go fully and completely before being able to be friends with someone.
Let’s not assume that you’re going to remain friends for a moment. Despite whether or not you decide to remain friends after being close with one another, moving on and letting someone go on an emotional level is imperative before you’ll be able to move on with your life in every possible aspect. The closer that you were with someone, the more time that you’ve spent loving that person, and the more that your heart was open towards them. In scenarios as such in which a couple has been together for a longer duration with much closeness, it’s going to take time to heal.
You need to give yourself an adequate amount of healing time. You can’t expect to move on the second that your relationship ends. You can’t expect anything of yourself or of the person that you were previously with, so stop trying, and bring down your expectations. Come back down to reality, and realize that the longer that you were with someone, the longer it may take for you or them to heal. Letting go is a crucial part of the healing process. You cannot and should not date anyone, and I mean anyone, despite your intentions, if you’re not ready and your heart isn’t open fully.
It’s beyond crucial to have an open heart and to go into each and every situation with that open heart, and a clean slate. Every person that you date and meet in this world that you have romantic and long term intentions with deserves a genuine and sincere chance. That means that you need to wipe your slate clean, and not bring in excess baggage from previous relationships, and you definitely can’t bring in any emotional wounds that you might still feel pain from.
If you truly want to find the love of your life, hope is not only there, but it’s far from gone. Everyone deserves to have hope, and believe that their future will be bright and beautiful. If we feel at times that we have nothing, we still have hope, and it’s imperative to keep our faith, and believe in G-d. Just know that you’re never alone in life, and Someone, Something, will always have your back, and you should never give up that hope, because it’s a beautiful thing.
When it comes to letting go of someone from your heart that you’ve grown so attached to, it can be so incredibly hard, but you can do it, and it’s more than possible for you to get through it. It’s not easy for anyone to move on after feeling that they possibly found the love of their life, and for whatever reason things didn’t work out or perhaps they didn’t want to be with you anymore. Despite the reason, and despite the scenario, letting go is something that a person needs to feel the desire to do themself.
If someone wants to move on bad enough, they will. Someone has to want to create a change in their life for the better in order to let go and move on. If someone wants to let go of any residual feelings that they might’ve had towards someone that they loved tremendously even, they can do so when they’re truly ready, at their own pace, in their own timeframe, and when they really want to make a change for the better for their future.
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