There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. But if two people are happy together, then that should be enough. It should be just as satisfying and fulfilling, as long as they aspire to improve. When a couple is happy, it’s usually because they work on improving themselves and their relationship. And it’s because they do things that will increase their happiness as a team. But when couples slack off and stop putting effort, patience, and understanding into their relationships, things might tend to suffer and their happiness might diminish as a result.
Having a great relationship involves many things. For starters, it involves being selfless, giving, and knowing that you should pick and choose your battles and be easy-going whenever you can. It’s important to let things slide when they’re not a big deal. Another important factor is forgiveness and that when someone apologizes for something that they did wrong, let it go when it’s not a big deal. Don’t keep bringing up the past or any forgiven and resolved issues. You don’t need to be drama-free or never argue to be happy. However, you must learn how to handle confrontation together in a healthy manner so you can both move forward past issues. In other words, couples need to be easy going but also to have forgiving hearts.
No one should pick on every little thing that someone does wrong or that’s not to their liking. You can’t love every single thing about a person—even if you say you do. But the way to have a happy relationship is to appreciate your differences, acknowledge that they exist, and try to do things that you think your partner might like and enjoy. Don’t solely focus on all of your own wants and needs—that’s selfish and a total relationship killer. Great relationships involve having great communication, being open with one another, being honest and trustworthy, and being each other‘s best friends and genuine partners.
When a couple does all of these things, they learn to evolve and grow together as a couple. And when couples grow together as a team they tend to last, because their relationship was based on a strong solid foundation from pillars of strength, trust, and what it really takes to make a relationship great. A relationship won’t be great or even last very long if couples aren’t willing to maintain all of the above foundation pillars.
Both people in a relationship have to be willing to do what it takes to make their relationship good, solid, and strong. You can’t just let the other person do all of the work, carry all of the weight, and be the only one who’s putting any effort into your relationship. You both have to be giving and loving equally, and you both have to do your share of things so that there’s enough balance. Balance is imperative in nearly everything good in life. And as we all know, or should know at least, everything good involves a certain amount of balance, effort, hard work, and love. But it’s important to not only imperative to care early on and in the beginning, but for always so that your relationship will last and in the most beautiful way.
Every couple goes through hard times and even argue more or less. But the couples that last and that are the happiest, are the couples that push forward and work on issues. The couples that are great are the couples that nip issues in the bud, rather than avoid confrontation. Healthy relationships don’t just happen overnight, but they take a certain amount of tender, loving, care, as cliché as that sounds.
If two people want to make their relationship great it will be great. At the end of the day, what’s truly important for couples to remember, is that you’re on the same team, and you both have the same goal of being happy together. Unfortunately, this simple fact is something that many couples forget and especially during challenging times. We can easily get distracted by so much that goes on in our lives and in the world around us, that many times we forget to put love and effort into the things that really matter in life. Try to keep in mind that your relationship should be just as much of a priority to you as everything else that’s important to you and that if you want it to be great, all you need to do is put some love into it—Always.