When you’ve been in a relationship with someone for quite some time, having sex can start to feel like a chore. When this happens, it can put an awful lot of strain on a relationship and is one of the biggest catalysts that lead to break-ups and divorce. If you are madly in love with your partner and don’t want to lose them, then there are some fun and exciting ways to keep things interesting in the bedroom that you should consider trying out. Read on to find out more!

1. Swap Roles

There always tends to be a more dominant person in a sexual relationship. If you are typically more dominant, and your partner more submissive, then try switching things up for a change of pace. Why don’t you just lay back and let them take the lead for once? It could be a really fun and exciting way of changing things up, whilst encouraging your partner to come out of their shell a bit more. 

2. Role-Play

Roleplaying doesn’t suit everyone, but it can be incredibly kinky! Talk to your partner and see if they have any secret sexual fantasies that they’d like to explore. This is a great opportunity to try out different outfits and explore the taboo subjects that get your heart racing! 

3. Talk Dirty 

Dirty talk is another thing that some people may find quite difficult to do, like role-play. However, if you approach it from a relaxed and light-hearted perspective, it can be a whole lot of fun! Again, communication is essential, so lay down some ground rules and discuss certain words that might be off-putting. In the same breath, if your partner doesn’t quite feel confident talking dirty to you, it doesn’t mean that they won’t want you to talk dirty to them. Experiment at a slow and steady pace and see what happens! 

4. Try New Positions

The internet is literally dripping with information on the many sexual positions that you can try. Do some research together and see if you can find some hot positions that you’d both like to try for yourselves. This can make sex so much more fun as you will be experiencing one another’s bodies in ways that you may never have before. It is quite literally mixing things up! That, and you may just find a whole new way to pleasure your partner. 

5. Turn the Bedroom Into a Lustful Lair

While the bedroom should largely be optimized for a good night’s sleep, it’s also important to make it the ideal sexual lair as well. Invest in some candles, get some fairy lights hanging above the bed for mood-lighting, and consider burning some incense as well. There is much that you can do to make your bedroom more erotic and this can work wonders in terms of getting you both in the mood for some intimate time together. 

6. Listen to Music

Put together a sexy playlist or find one of the many pre-made lists on Spotify and let it play on in the background while you get down and dirty. Having music in the background is not only great for syncing up and adding some rhythm to your sex life, but it can even enhance the sensation and help you maintain concentration at the moment. 

7. Invest in Some Sex Toys

Sexual pleasure toys are all the rage and you will be surprised by just how much they can add to your sex life. If things have been starting to stagnate between you both lately, consider investing in some sex toys and finding new and exciting ways to bring each other vast amounts of pleasure! 

8. Never Underestimate Foreplay

Stop rushing into sex and trying to get it out of the way. Foreplay is all about taking your time and enjoying one another’s bodies. The longer you let the anticipation build, the better the sex will be when you finally embrace one another. Not only is foreplay essential for women to be physically ready for penetration, but it can work wonders for helping a man to maintain an erection as well. 

9. Get Down There!

Take in turns going down on one another. Sex doesn’t always have to lead to penetration. Why not experiment with some oral and masturbation as well? As long as you both have fun, that’s all that matters! 

10. Communicate

Communication is key to a healthy relationship – particularly when it comes to sex. So, dedicate time to talk to one another about your thoughts, feelings, and desires. The same applies to what is working for you and what isn’t. If your partner’s technique is slightly off and you think that another method would bring you more pleasure, then tell them! There’s no good bottling it up through fear of upsetting them. Communicate and listen to each other. The aim is not to upset your partner, but to enhance your overall sexual enjoyment, together.