A healthy and comfortable relationship is one built on trust and communication. Follow these 7 tips to create a relationship you love living.
Just because someone is in a relationship does not mean that they have a healthy and comfortable relationship. In fact, it takes a lot of work to maintain a relationship where both people feel physically and emotionally connected.
A healthy relationship is one where you provide for your partner when they need you and your partner provides for you. This can be as little as a hug in the morning, a smile, or simply sharing your day. This type of respect isn’t always natural, but when practiced can create a love you may have never known existed.
Here Are 7 Essential Tips to Help Your Relationship Stay Healthy and Comfortable.
1. Learn to Communicate
You may have heard the expression that “Communication is the foundation for all great relationships.” That’s some pretty good advice. Communication is the key element for all relationships. Good communication can create a fun and healthy relationship, as much as poor communication can create a dysfunctional relationship. A relationship based on communication means you share your day, your desires, your interests, feelings, and yes, may even mean that you create an environment allowing open, honest and often uncomfortable discussions.
2. Be Passionate About Something
We know what you’re going to say, “Well, I’m passionate about my partner.” That’s great! But it is also important that you are able to have a degree of independence in your life. While your partner may fulfill many of your interests and desires, don’t let your passions slip away. Understanding and respecting each other’s need for things outside the relationship helps to sustain a personal identity and preserve those interests and friendships which created the person your partner fell in love with. Just be careful not to become so immersed in maintaining your identity that you ignore your partner.
3. Help to Build Trust
The ability to trust your partner is an amazing feeling, especially for a partner who has been cheated on or even gone through a divorce. Most people have a high threshold of acceptance when it comes to their partner. However, a lack of trust due to cheating can ingrain a behaviour that leads to distrust. However, building a trusting relationship with your partner can help to alleviate those issues as well as reinforce a partner’s trust in you. Fortunately, trust is developed by implementing several tips on this list such as providing good communication, being respectful, and supportive.
4. Respectfully Engage in Conflict
Many people feel that conflict, in general, is bad for a relationship. However, if done respectfully, conflict can actually improve your relationship by opening up a channel to express and receive honest feedback. Respectful conflict may include:
- Keeping the focus on the issue without bringing up past and unrelated arguments.
- Try to look at the conflict from your partner’s point of view.
- Don’t look at disagreement as a “winning/losing” type of fight.
- If you or your partner are really getting upset, try to take a break.
- Never attack your partner directly. Express how you feel, but not that your partner forced that feeling on you.
5. Be Supportive
Many partners will look as highly upon a supportive partner as they do a partner who communicates well. A supportive partner is someone who will defend you when you are attacked (verbally or physically) and provides encouragement to when you want to hang out with friends, family, or pursue new passions in life.
Understanding that someone is in your corner to protect you as well as be your shoulder to lean on when you need support is not only comforting, but it’s also sexy.
6. Empower Intimacy
Being intimate with your partner is not always about just having sex. Intimacy comes in a variety of forms. For example, applying a kiss to your partner’s neck as they leave for work or cuddling on the couch to watch a movie.
Intimacy can also be used as a means of flirtation, such as sexting while you and your partner are away from each other. Common sexting tips include sexting to start the mood from the moment your partner walks through the door as well as a way to introduce a new curious pleasure.
7. Learn to Forgive and Forget
We all make small mistakes such as forgetting to pick something up at the store or not cleaning out the cat box. Hanging on to small mistakes can take its toll in a relationship and lead to resentment. Sometimes it helps to give your partner a gentle reminder, but in the end, are these mistakes worth your relationship. Keep in mind that “mistakes” such as cheating on your partner are not mistakes, those are conscious decisions. What we are talking about here are innocent mistakes and misunderstandings. By learning to forgive and forget you have the capability to say you’re sorry when you make a mistake as well as forgive your partner when they do.
Growing in a healthy and comfortable relationship is all about building trust through communication and respect. In addition, it is important to show passion and intimacy in your life, both to bolster your affection as well as maintain your own sense of identity which is, after all, the reason your partner fell for you in the first place. Relationships often revolve on a cyclical scale, so what you put into it is often what you receive.