How to Handle Breaking Up a Toxic Marital Relationship



No one should have to deal with a toxic relationship. Unfortunately, getting out of a toxic marriage can feel impossible. If you’re looking to break up your toxic marriage, you’ll want to follow the steps below.

Define Toxicity

Your first step towards getting out of a toxic relationship is to define what toxicity means to you. While talking to friends and family can be helpful, only you can decide what you can live with and that from which you need to get away. Learn what your hard limits are and what your breaking point is, and make sure that you’re willing to leave when you hit the point of no return. The first step in breaking up a toxic marriage is understanding exactly why you need to leave. Many people in toxic relationships aren’t able to see the problem on their own, however, and so working with a therapist is often suggested.

Ensure Your Safety

Some toxic relationships do more than just take a mental toll on those involved. If you are in a toxic relationship that makes you fear for your safety, you need to look at what needs to be done to ensure that you can get away without getting hurt. It is wise to look at organizations that help battered spouses get out of their homes, and call the police when you feel you are in immediate danger. Coordinate your position and status with friends and family until you are out of harm’s way, and be aware that you should never feel unsafe in a healthy marriage.

Talk to a Lawyer

Next, you’ll want to talk to a professional about your options. Working with family law lawyers will give you a better idea of what you’re going to have to do next from a legal standpoint. Whether this means figuring out how you will serve the other party the divorce papers or setting up a temporary custody order, you need to work with a good attorney to make sure that you are set for what comes next. Having legal guidance is also extremely beneficial for those who are already facing enough emotional strain from the relationship and divorce and need a cool and professional head to stand by them.

Look at Your ‘Escape Plan’

Finally, figure out what it really looks like for you to leave. Are you going to stay in your current home, or are you going to move out? Do you have money to do so? Are there people who can help you move your things? You’ll need to answer these basic questions so that you have a firm foundation in place as you move forward.

It’s not easy to leave a toxic relationship, but doing so really will improve your life. Make sure you know what you’re going to do, how you’re going to do it, and what kind of help you’ll need to get out. With the right planning, you can get out and start a new life.


One thought on “How to Handle Breaking Up a Toxic Marital Relationship

  1. I don’t think there should be any kind of secret or privacy in a relationship or marriage. I don’t think it’s nice to be keeping your phone to yourself and keeping it locked with a password that is not known by your wife or husband. After 5years of marriage, I discovered that the man I love so much started acting funny and suddenly changed his password that he has been using over the years now and always keeping his phone to himself. He ended up being a total cheater. He acted so toxic when I called him out on it, trying to blame me for being nosy. I don’t keep toxic people in my life anymore.

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