Something that’s truly unfortunate in the dating scene is that many times we give people the time of day when we shouldn’t. We give people chances that don’t deserve chances, let alone second chances at times. You’re not desperate, I’m not desperate, and no one should feel that they’re desperate to the point where they settle for less than what they want in life. I’m not gonna sit here and preach to those that don’t feel that they’re worthy of the best. You and everyone else needs to embrace who they are, to feel whole and good inside, and to feel confident and worthy of everything good and beautiful in life to the point where they don’t settle or accept less than what they deserve, and what they really want in life.
I’m not sure why many times a lot of people will give others the time of day when it comes to dating them, when it’s pretty clear and obvious that they’re not a good match for one another from the get go. Unless a situation is promising and there’s a good chance that you’ll be a great match for one another, and that you both ultimately want the same things in your future, there’s no reason why you should give a situation a chance. Many times we give situations a chance that we shouldn’t. But many times we also don’t give situations a chance that we should.
The dating scene can be tough, but it can be a lot easier if we listen to our instincts, and if we don’t sweep red flags under the carpet. In other words, when we get an instinctive feeling that a situation isn’t going to be right for us, then it’s important not to give it a chance. A lot of times we give people a chance when they’re toxic for us in different ways, and we end up getting sucked in where we feel empty, or upset in different ways for giving them the time of day. I kindly ask that my readers heed my words and realize the great importance of them when I say that we should not give everyone the time of day.
Not everyone deserves our time, love, effort, and energy
When someone has a toxic personality, there’s a high chance that they’ll bring you down, despite your strength and resilience as a person. The fact of the matter is, if you put a crazy person with another crazy person, you’re just going to get a lot of craziness. But if you put a normal and sane person in an environment with another person that’s crazy or toxic in different ways, that normal person will end up not being the best version of themselves or even might become a little crazy. It’s imperative to avoid toxic people whenever possible, and never, and I mean never give toxic people or people that just aren’t right for you a chance or even the time of day when you know that they’re not right for you.
You shouldn’t waste your time or others when it comes to dating someone. It’s important to have pure intentions, and if you’re anything like me and you date with marital intentions, and you have hopes to find a meaningful, loving, and lasting relationship, then it’s important not to waste anyone’s time or your own when it comes to giving situations a chance. Don’t give toxic people the time of day or the opportunity to bring you down in life. Don’t let toxic people drag you into their misery, their negativity, and their pessimistic view on life.
We should all feel good and happy inside as much as possible, and we should never let anyone else affect our mood or the peace that we feel from within. No one should get the opportunity to take away our happiness in life, and they wouldn’t, if we didn’t let them. Remember, if your ultimate goal in life is happiness, and you’re hoping to find your best possible match, then don’t give the wrong person or the wrong people the time of day, because they’re only distracting you, and holding you back from finding the one that you should be with.
No one should have the right to bring you down, bully you, or make you feel bad. Unfortunately, there are many people out there that will try to drag you into their miserable state and you won’t even know it at times, until it’s too late. That’s why it’s so imperative and crucial to listen to your instincts early on when you see that someone isn’t a good match for you, and end things right there. Don’t give toxic people or toxic situations a chance when they don’t deserve one, because you’ll only get let down in the end, and likely feel miserable.
If you want to have a happy life, then it’s pretty simple what you have to do. You should surround yourself with like-minded individuals who are content with who they are, feel whole, complete, and that only want to add to their lives by having a partner that they can love with, laugh with, and share their life with. Don’t settle for someone that you might be good on paper with or someone that others might think you’re the right match for.
The Flow of True Love
You’ll know your best possible match when it’s right in front of you, because everything will seem clear, things will flow for the most part, your instinct will be to go forward, and things won’t be difficult to the point where you feel stressed out or as if the amount of drama in your life has been enhanced. Don’t get me wrong, because I’m not saying that life should be drama-free or that any relationship for that matter won’t have moments that are difficult. But what I am saying is that you can tell a lot early on about a person or a situation, and instead of exploring a situation that isn’t right for you, put more effort into finding the right situation, and your best possible match so that you can be happy.
We all have a best possible match, but if we’re going to give the wrong situations a chance, we’re going to delay the process of finding our true partner in life. Unless you want to get to the point in life where you’re old, single, bitter, and jaded from the dating scene, it’s important to go about dating in a manner where your heart is open, but only towards exploring situations that are truly promising.
Make sure that your standards are as high as they should be, and that you don’t settle for less that you want and deserve in life. Don’t settle for empty love or for a relationship that’s unhealthy or toxic just so that you’re not lonely. As well, it’s better to be alone, than with the wrong person. There’s no need to explore pointless situations that are over before they even start. The last thing that anyone needs is added stress and drama in their life. If anything, it’s important to avoid drama, hectic situations, and toxic people whenever possible.
I’m not a Mrs. fix it, you’re not a Mr. fix it, and we’re not here to fix each other. When you’re with the right person, you don’t have to train the person or teach them how to behave in an appropriate manner. This especially goes for those that are dating with marital intentions, and those that are old enough to be in an adult relationship. You should never have to teach people how they should act or what’s appropriate or inappropriate for early dating conversation. As well, you should never have to train someone or remind them how to act while dating or throughout a relationship.
When you’re in the right situation and you’re dating your best possible match, you’re not going to be insanely stressed out all of the time. In the right situation, things will tend to flow a lot more, and you should feel more of a sense of peace and happiness in your life. Remember, true happiness comes from within and from feeling whole inside.
No one should even be dating someone else if they’re not in a place where they’re whole themselves first. As well, as far as the saying goes, “I want someone to make me feel whole,” someone isn’t actually supposed to make you feel whole, because you’re supposed to already feel that way. In a healthy relationship, both people already feel whole, but their love for one another makes them feel complete. The right and more appropriate saying would be, “I want someone that makes me feel complete.”
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