It’s always good to surround yourself with positive people that are somewhat enlightened, or at least those that strive to be. It’s always good to make friends and be around people that bring out the best in you, and that truly wants you to succeed in life in every way. Many times we meet people in life that start out acting like true friends. But in reality, it takes time to develop a good and healthy friendship and to know what kind of person someone truly is. If you get the feeling that someone is toxic by what they say and through their actions, it’s important to minimize all contact with them as soon as possible. The reason being is because toxic people can cause great damage to your life if you let them.
I’ve written before about toxic people and toxic relationships. This is a subject that I, unfortunately, have learned a lot about through experience. The truth is, perhaps I’m fortunate for experiencing what I had so that I’m able to write about it now, and possibly help others. I also feel that experiencing and seeing many different types of toxic people throughout my life has made me a better person. I’ve learned what not to do, what to look out for, and that I should be wary when making new friends, and bringing people closer into my life. Like I’ve said before, it’s important to pick and choose who your friends are, and definitely end any toxic friendships or relationships that you might have.
Many people choose to block people from their phones, social media, and basically, from their lives when they see that people’s actions or things that they say are toxic. They do so in order to avoid any stress or drama in their lives. I don’t necessarily think that that’s a bad thing to do. Someone once told me a good piece of advice when I said that I don’t like to burn bridges unless I have to. This person told me that sometimes, you have to burn a bridge (completely end communication), and that’s when someone is truly toxic, abusive, or hurts you in any way. They had a point when they said that. It truly resonated and stuck with me.
I think that there are definitely times when you should burn a bridge, and stop all contact with a person. But the thing is, sometimes you can end friendships, relationships, and all communication with someone, yet still remain cordial. For me personally, I’ve definitely been hurt before by people. But many times, I’ve made the choice to kill them with kindness, let my hurt go, and not communicate with them further. Having said that, when people don’t get the message, harass you, and give you lots of negative and toxic energy, you should definitely block them from your life in any way that you can.
We should all love ourselves enough to provide ourselves with peace, and only let good people into our lives. No one deserves to feel pain or hurt by someone for any reason. Especially, when you’ve done nothing wrong to deserve it. We should all love ourselves enough to only surround ourselves with people that are good to us, and that has our best interest at heart. There will always be people that will hate you or envy you in different ways. Whether you’re beautiful, successful, or in regards to anything that’s good in your life, there will always be jealous people, and friends who secretly want you to fail. In case you haven’t guessed it, those types of friends aren’t really your friends.
Whether you’re starting a business or doing anything in your life that’s positive, and that brings you much happiness and success, you should only share what you’re doing with those that genuinely want the best for you. However, sometimes people are in the public eye. Whether you or they are famous actors, successful entrepreneurs, or even bloggers, etc., and you can’t always prevent hate. There will always be people that will hate, and many times, for no reason at all other than jealousy.
Nothing’s uglier than jealousy. Well, the ego is pretty ugly as well. But jealousy is definitely up there for ugly traits. As is bullying. Remember this, the more that you have in life, the more of a good person that you are, and the more successful that you become, the more that toxic people will show up, and want you to fail. You should never let others harass you or try to bring you down in life with their words or their actions. However, we can only control our own actions, and unfortunately, we can’t change other people. The most that we can do is set a good example, kill people with kindness, and do our best in life to be a good person.
It’s imperative not to let toxic and jealous people try to kill your spirits or put you in a bad mood. You deserve to be happy, and so do they. But all you need to do is concentrate on staying good and positive, despite how someone treats you. If someone is that toxic, and they’re trying to bring you down in life, distance yourself from them, or even block them if you have to. But the one thing that you should try to avoid is arguing with a toxic person. There’s no point in trying to convince someone that’s truly and utterly toxic of how good of a person you are. You likely won’t win that argument in their eyes, and arguing will only stress you out, and possibly even cause turbulence in your life. Why bother, and why cause yourself any pain or stress. You shouldn’t have to convince anyone of how good you are, or that your intentions are pure and good.
You’ll recognize a toxic person right away, because they’re all around you, and more so when you’re succeeding at things in life. You’ll notice that there are many trolls (as people call them these days) throughout social media that tend to comment negativity on things that people post and share. I’ve never been a big fan of people commenting negative things or even of pranksters. But, it seems that we are in a place in this world right now where social media is huge, and where commenting negative things brings more attention to toxic types of people.
Many times, toxic people will go out of their way to bring attention to themselves, despite the fact that it’s merely negative attention. Maybe they’re not getting any attention at home or from others in their life, and they’d rather have negative attention, than no attention. Despite why toxic people do what they do, it’s important to control yourself and how you respond back to them. I think the best thing to do would be to give negative people the silent treatment and ignore them whenever possible. This is something to this day I personally have to work on.
On a last note, I want to say this so that no one accepts people causing them pain or stress in their life. If someone is harassing you, you need to put a stop to it and depending on the extent of the harassment, you should block them from your phone, social media, and everywhere else that you can. If that’s not enough, you can always report them to authority figures. My blessings to all, and I hope that you all have a wonderful and peaceful day filled with lots of love.
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I am fairly fortunate in that I pretty much have positive people in my life now. As a blogger, we do have to deal with trolls now and then. Dealing with them can be difficult, but the good ones far outway the mean ones. So feel good about yourself and know that most people don’t want to harm you. Most people are basically good deep down. If you send hope and inspiration into the world, inspiration and happiness flourishes, usually. Of course, we all suffer through hard times and having a good attitude makes a huge difference. I’ve had two brain tumors and still believe that life is pretty good.
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Very very true! Anne Cohen is the most toxic one out of all :)))) she has no friends, no love, no one to share life with… But she has non toxic people who pay her bills, take her out, buy her food and drinks, bring light to her life and move her! That’s very very enlightening! Blessed be and hope God helps you!
Mr./Ms. Anonymous I can see why you hide. Anyone who would say that to a writer, has to have a few marbles missing or just loves to hate. Sad.