Plenty of Fish, but Where Are They Hiding?

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There are many dating sites out there for singles to endlessly search through with hopes to find one’s best possible match. There are sites like JDate, JSwipe, Bumble, Match.com, OKCupid, and even Plenty of Fish just to list a few. But online dating is not as easy as one would think, despite how many people are using the sites. One good thing about being open to meeting someone that you’ve met online is that it opens the doors to meet someone for people that are busier, and tend to avoid the bar and club scene, or even for those that are workaholics and rarely get to see the light of day.


A lot of people find it hard to be very social because of what they do throughout their daily lives, and therefore they leave little time to be out and about – casually meeting someone or for even getting fixed up. Being that there are many reasons why people choose online dating, it’s important to be ready for anything when it comes to who you might meet.


I’ve written many articles about online dating sites, regarding why they’re good, why they’re bad, and the types of people that you’ll likely find on dating sites. But one thing that I haven’t really covered yet is the fact that although there are so many people out there to choose from and to swipe this way or that way with, many people still have a hard time finding that one special person that they end up feeling truly compatible with, as well as someone they’ll feel enough chemistry with that they’ll want to pursue the person.


Finding the right match for you isn’t going to be an easy thing, so it’s important to stay positive and keep an optimistic outlook, despite the fact that there’s a high percentage of bad dates that you might go on, and that you might even meet a few crazies out there throughout dating sites.


Choosing to meet someone online is something that you need to choose to do with caution. Having said that, going into new situations with caution isn’t really enough when you’re choosing to date someone that you’ve met online. It’s also important to have that first phone call conversation with someone, to make sure that you’re on the same page, and that you ultimately want the same things in the future.


There’s a lot of dishonesty throughout dating sites, and sometimes profiles are even fake. Believe it or not, and in case you didn’t know, I’ve personally tried online dating, and I’ve been banned from a couple of sites – if you can believe that. The reason being I was told was because people were reporting me because my pictures were fake, when they were actually nothing other than pictures of me. When I heard that, I was like What the…! 


I truly feel that it’s imperative to post a profile online that’s going to be honest, authentic, and to give a small description of what you’re looking for in a match. You shouldn’t alter the truth to make yourself seem more appealing or to find someone that’s within a certain age range, because yours just misses the cut off from what people might be able to view or search for. Can you figure out why? Yep, honesty is everything.


Honesty is everything, and I can tell you firsthand that many women and men will ghost you instantly once they find out that you lied about your profile in any way. Honesty is important for everyone it seems, but from what I’ve seen experiencing online dating is that honesty is an even bigger factor and something that people are searching for, and many times more than good looks.


There are a good portion of people that actually are hoping to find the love of their life using online dating as their method. Those types of people are most likely looking for someone that will be honest, and viewing your profile and finding anything that doesn’t match up once you speak – tends to usually be the first red flag. That particular red flag can be avoided altogether from the get-go if you post an honest profile.


There are plenty of fish in the sea, and I’m sure that many of us in the dating scene are well aware of that. However, there aren’t plenty of honest fish out there, and it’s truly unfortunate. All I can say is that if we all worked on ourselves more, and loved ourselves enough, we wouldn’t feel the need to dress up the truth.


We should feel proud of who we are, what we look like, our age, and everything else about ourselves. The point is to find someone that’s going to love you for you, and not some version of what you’ve created in an online dating profile.
Although there’s a whole world of fish throughout online dating, there are only a small portion of people that will be brutally honest, have pure intentions, and recognize pure love, inner beauty, and a person that’s honest, and has good intentions.


Last but not least, it’s important to remember that although there are plenty of fish in the sea, and there are endless people to choose from throughout online dating sites, it shouldn’t be the more the merrier, the grass is always greener, or anything of the sort. You should give promising situations a chance, and not log into the dating sites after you’ve spoken with someone, gone out with them, and when you feel that you actually have potential to keep dating them.


Deactivating online dating profiles is something that both people should do after a first, second, or even a third date. It’s not that you should expect the other person to deactivate their profile. But if they don’t after you’ve dated a few times, then they’re either not that interested in you, they’re just catching and releasing (fishing lingo), or they might have ulterior motives. I find that the people that are afraid to turn off their dating sites are the ones that end up remaining on dating sites for many years. It’s important to deactivate your profiles after about three dates with someone so that you can give a genuine chance to the person that you’re dating, as well as to the situation.


Turning your dating sites back on is never an issue on any of the dating apps or websites, because usually you’re able to deactivate and hide your profile, and then reactivate it just as easy without any complications or lost information. Therefore, if a situation seems promising enough and you’d like to give it a chance with someone, I’d highly suggest doing so, because I can assure you that the grass isn’t greener, and if there’s potential with someone in that great ocean of fish, you should give things a shot. 

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Anne Cohen

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Anne Cohen is a lifestyle and relationship blogger based in Los Angeles, CA. Her blogs are Anne Cohen and Anne Cohen Writes. She contributes to various publications including The Huffington Post, Elite Daily, and many more. She's passionate about love, writing, chess, and more than anything, her two kids.
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