I always write about the importance of being very self-aware and how much it can help while dating or starting a new relationship. Actually, no matter what your situation is, it’s always good to be self-aware. When you become self-aware, you’re able to see things within yourself from a clear perspective, and you can get a better idea of what works for you and what doesn’t in a relationship. As well, being self-aware makes it so that you’re able to listen to your own gut feeling or instincts. Many times, situations in life can go so much smoother when you’re able to listen to your own instincts. I wrote this article as a reminder for those who don’t trust their instincts enough to listen to them. As well, I wrote this for people who don’t understand the importance of listening to your own instincts when it comes to dating someone new.
It’s important to remember that when things are right with someone, everything naturally flows. If you start listening to your instincts, you’ll suddenly notice that you’re not dealing with the same struggles that you might’ve been dealing with, while dating others in the past. When I say how important it is to listen to your instincts when dating someone new, it’s also very important to remember that even though you’re listening to your instincts and they’re usually right, you should still proceed with caution.
When you start dating someone new, if you open your heart up just enough to let someone see the real you and you get the same back in return from them, you’ll be able to make a wise decision for yourself whether or not the person is good for you. One of the biggest help factors in dating someone new is being able to listen to your own instincts on whether or not the person will be good for you. Your instincts can tell you a whole lot about a person that you’re considering dating. This especially goes for during early dating. Many people aren’t aware of this factor, and it delays the process of figuring out whether or not a person is really good for you. If you listen to your gut instincts, then you’ll be able to tell a lot sooner than you would’ve whether someone’s a good match for you.
Sometimes when people listen to their instincts, they end up being wrong, and I believe that’s because they’re not as connected as they should be to themselves. In other words, they’re not being as self-aware as they should be. I believe that being self-aware and listening to your instinct go hand-in-hand. I don’t think that it’s really possible to truly listen to your instincts when you’re not self-aware. If this sounds somewhat spiritual, then you’re following what I’m saying, because it is.
If you’re going to start embracing someone new into your life with an open heart and mind towards loving them, you must love yourself and embrace yourself wholly and completely. Once you do so, you’ll be able to connect with yourself enough that you’ll be able to be in touch with your own instincts, and it will help you figure out whether situations are good for you or not. Listening to your instincts saves people so much trouble and allows you not to waste anyone else’s time or your own, by endless dating and trying to figure out whether a person’s good for you or not.
When it comes to listening to your own instincts, there’s an important factor and concern that many times comes up. That concern is the fact that many people don’t trust their own instincts. If you don’t trust your own instincts, then you have to work on that, by recognizing that you’re doing that, and you need to start trusting yourself as soon as possible. This is something that’s going to help you in every aspect of your life. When you’re about to meet someone new with hopes of starting a healthy relationship, it can help a lot. Especially in the beginning, when you’re trying to find out whether or not a person will be right for you from the get-go, rather than having a long term relationship where you end up finding out that you’re not right for each other. You could save yourself a lot of time and possible heartache if things don’t work out with someone. It’s important that you work on trusting yourself enough that you’ll be able to listen to your own instinct, because your instinct is usually right about things, people, and situations.
Someone once told me that it’s obvious when someone’s interested in you. I provoked them into saying that, because I used to always be in disbelief that certain people had any interest in me, despite certain things that they’d say or do. My belief that many times people weren’t interested in me wasn’t coming from a place of insecurity or low self-esteem. It was coming from a place of trying to remain humble, and not be assuming that people were interested in me, simply because I thought they might be.
I always thought that I’d be considered arrogant if I assumed that people were interested in me, just because I thought they were. Well, this person taught me a lesson by saying one thing. They told me that, “Every girl knows when a guy is interested in her.” At first, it didn’t hit home with me, and I had to think about that statement for a while. Having said that, I get it now, and it truly makes sense to me. After that moment, I realized that all of those people that I thought might’ve had an interest in me, and I always doubted it, at some point have tried to date me. Forgive me if that sounds like a hubris statement, but I’m being truthful, and my point is to share this example so that people can learn from it.
It’s important to listen to your instincts, because it can help you in many ways in life. This especially goes for people that tend to be very trusting in others, assuming that everyone’s honest, giving people the benefit of the doubt, and at times when they don’t deserve it. Listening to your instincts is essential and you shouldn’t doubt your own feelings about situations, when you get the sense that something doesn’t seem right and doesn’t sit well with you. If it doesn’t, there’s a reason why, and you shouldn’t sweep that under the rug. The same goes for red flags. Sweeping red flags under the rug happens moreso when people don’t listen to their instincts. When people start listening to their instincts, there will be less sweeping things under the rug, and people will stop giving situations that didn’t truly deserve a real chance, a shot to begin with.
You can tell a lot about a person via text, via email, on the telephone, and in person of course. Nowadays, many people are dating someone that they’ve met online. This can be especially helpful for those people. When you meet someone online and you start messaging back-and-forth, you can usually get a pretty good idea of whether or not you’re compatible, from the types of messages that you’re sending to one another. When you listen to your instincts, you can get an even better idea! This might sound silly to you, but you can usually get a pretty good idea about a person from the way that they write to you, from what they say, to how they respond. Don’t get me wrong, you can’t find out everything from messaging with someone and texting back and forth. Without communicating on the telephone or meeting in person, you can only find out so much. Having said that, you can still tell a lot before you even meet a person when you communicate before hand, when you listen to your instincts.
In closing, remember to be self-aware, listen to your instincts, and definitely have a phone conversation before actually meeting, so that you can get a better idea about the other person, before asking someone out or accepting a first date. During the first few dates, listening to your instinct will help you in an immense way, if you can recognize what your instinct is telling you. This doesn’t just go for people that meet each other when dating online. It goes for everyone that’s in the dating scene and especially, during early dating.
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