The Big Secret to Getting Over an Ex


When it comes to ways on how to keep the love alive in relationships, and to stably be happy, there are many things that one can do. One of the biggest ways to stay happy in a relationship is to appreciate all of the things that it has, and that are good and positive in the relationship. I wrote this article not so much to express ways in which one can keep the happiness alive in a relationship, but more so, the big secret on how to get over a relationship that was once happy. 

Getting over an ex can be hard. But, it’s possible, and can be a lot easier if you handle the situation right. There are many things that one can do to get over an ex love. However, the one way that many people are unaware of is a big secret to most. Sometimes, when we think outside of the box, that’s where we find the best solutions in life, and in love. In this case, that’s where the solution lies. In this article, I’m not going to go over all of the different ways that make it easier to get over an ex. But instead, I’m going to go into one of the most important ways. 

Sometimes relationships end, there’s no turning back, and there’s nothing we can do about it. In cases like that, we’re left with no choice, and we have to do what it takes to make ourselves feel alright, and to relieve some of the heartache, pain, and distress that we might be going through. In the same manner that while we’re in a relationship, we’re supposed to concentrate on all of the good things, when a relationship ends, we’re supposed to do the exact opposite. When it’s over, we’re supposed to concentrate on all of the things that were bad, negative, toxic, and all of the things that were lacking in that relationship. 

Once the relationship is over, you should no longer concentrate on all of the beautiful and good things that it had, and there’s no need to reminisce about it in a positive light. That will only leave you confused, and with mixed emotions that could lead you to wanting to go back into that relationship again. It’s likely that if a relationship ended, going back into it isn’t an option or perhaps it isn’t a good option, and you might be well aware of that. This is why it’s important to concentrate on all of the negative things that the relationship had, and only when you concentrate on the bad things, will it become easier to get over it. 

If you start daydreaming while you’re driving, or at any other point throughout the day, and memories or thoughts of the person that you’re no longer with come into your mind, cut it short, kill the thought, and move on. If needed, in that very moment, remind yourself of why you’re not together anymore, and think of some of the reasons that made it so hard for you to work things out. Think about it, it didn’t work out for reasons that I’m sure you’re aware of. You might’ve even gone back and forth, and tried really hard to make things work, but they didn’t. Despite what the reasons were for it not working out, it’s over. When a relationship is over, it’s dead, gone, and in the past. It’s time to move on. 

Sometimes it’s hard to get over someone that you loved so much. But, if you know that the only way to move on is to get over them, it’s important that you stop reminiscing, or daydreaming even, in a positive manner, and stop thinking of all of the good times. You have to let that person go, because the situation is over. All you need to do now is focus on healing yourself, and on making yourself open to loving again. It’s going to be hard to ever become open to loving someone again when all you’re thinking about is how wonderful that person and that relationship was. Again, I can’t stress enough how important it is to concentrate on all of the bad things in that relationship, instead of on all of the good things.

Anne Cohen
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