Part of being in a relationship with someone, is knowing that you can trust one another, believe in one another, and know that you’re both fully committed and faithful to each other, even when you’re apart. Couples can’t necessarily be together all of the time and sometimes or many times even, they do things when they’re away from one another, like working, doing different activities, and for some couples, even traveling apart. However, when you’re not with your partner, it’s important to know that you can trust one another, and when in doubt, you should be able to give each other the benefit of the doubt and always assume the best, rather than the worst.
When the trust is broken in a relationship, the glass breaks, so to speak. In other words, when cheating or any form of infidelity has occurred, even if it’s simply emotional cheating and you’re developing feelings in someway for another person, you’re breaking the glass. You can’t fix the broken glass of a relationship, and that’s why it’s imperative to think of the consequences of your actions, and before you mess up and do something where could risk losing something that you’ve worked so hard to build and maintain. Speaking of maintain, having a healthy, happy, and strong relationship involves two people who are putting a certain amount of trust into one another. And despite the fact that it’s not always easy to tell the whole truth, and nothing but the truth to your partner (click here), it’s the best approach if you want your relationship to have a solid and strong foundation.
No one should ever risk losing something that they value and care about. If you truly love your partner and care how they feel, then you should put them and their feelings above your own. Being selfless is one of the most important things you can do to show your partner how much you love them. It’s one of the best ways that your partner will feel loved by you. And when you break the trust in your relationship, you’re being selfish. So it’s important to remember that honesty is everything, and when someone is unfaithful or cheats physically or emotionally on their partner, it’s one of the most selfish acts, and many times, it can’t be fixed.
If you’re in a situation, and you’re feeling unhappy with certain aspects in your relationship on any level, you need to communicate your feelings to your partner. I mean after all, you’re supposed to be best friends, and not merely lovers. You should be able to trust and communicate with one another to the extent of best friends. Don’t cheat on your best friend, and do something that you’ll regret later. Don’t mess up everything that you’ve worked so hard to attain. If you’re having doubts about your relationship, if your partner is withholding intimacy, or if your love life isn’t what it used to be and you’re starting to look elsewhere, possibly feeling guilty in the process, make sure that you’re communicating how you feel to your partner, so that you’ll give them the opportunity to fix things, to improve things, and to work things out with you. You see, you have to communicate how you’re feeling, before it’s too late, and before you do something stupid that you might regret later.
Communication, trust, and honesty are three things that every relationship needs in order to be successful. Make sure that you’re doing your share in your relationship by being sensitive and understanding to your partner’s needs, as well as by being open to hearing them out and listening to them when they’re communicating their feelings to you. Unfortunately, sometimes we shut our partners out, or even avoid listening to them because some things seem hard to bear, and perhaps we’d rather live in denial or hope that we didn’t hear what they’re saying, because it’s too painful. The only way to fix issues is to pay attention and to acknowledge them.
Couples need to be open to having great communication with one another, so that they can better understand what’s going on, and so they’re able to improve things. Remember, sometimes we don’t get second chances, and I’m sure that the last thing that anyone wants is a broken relationship that can’t be fixed because they didn’t listen or care enough about how their partner was feeling. Improve your communication with one another, so that you don’t get into a messy situation, and make sure that you’re both brutally honest, open book, and that you’re not hiding things from one another. Just know that, in the end, cheating hurts everyone, and although it might provide short term light that you might be desiring or lusting for, it will leave you with very long term darkness.
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