I Want Someone Who ‘Gets’ Me

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Nothing is as good as the feeling of having a partner that just “gets” you without you having to explain yourself all of the time. No matter how hard you might try to make someone understand your point of views, at times, they simply never will, because they don’t “get” you, they don’t relate to what you say or how you think, and many times it’s unfortunate, but the reason is because they’re not your true match.As I’ve written before, being a great catch doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re the right match, or even more so, that they’re the best possible match for you.


I think that we all want to be with someone that seems like the right fit. And I don’t think that that’s wanting anything that’s along the lines of unrealistic. Being the right fit for another person involves two people “getting” each other, and without having to try too hard. You shouldn’t have to act like anything other than your genuine and authentic self. You don’t have to be a “people pleaser” or come across as perfect when you’re with the right match. Being with the right match is something that we all want to experience in life.


No one wants to be with someone that’s almost perfect for them. Don’t get me wrong, because I don’t believe that anyone is perfect. But when it comes to having the perfect match for you, I think that we all have a pretty perfect soulmate out there somewhere. However, let’s leave the word soulmate out of this for a minute. It seems that that word will get overused in today’s society, and I’d love to avoid the overuse in this article if at all possible. So let me put it this way. When you’re in a situation that seems like your best fit, where your partner feels like your best possible match in life, on the most part, happy feelings come naturally, and even putting effort into things doesn’t seem like it takes much work.


It’s important to think long and hard over making a decision that’s as big as sharing your life with someone. You’re committing to an exclusive relationship, but assuming that you’re only dating with marital intentions and hoping to settle down with the right person, you might feel a lot of pressure, because dating is not something you do for fun, but more so, with hopes to find your best possible match for life. For those that date for fun, but are open to anything happening, they don’t have the same pressure that they put on themselves as far as their future goes.


Although I feel that it’s important to live in the moment, enjoy today, and embrace the feelings that you’re feeling this very minute and so on, I still feel that it’s important to go into life, into love, and into new situations with a certain amount of caution. I don’t believe in being that free-spirited where no boundaries or organization takes place. I’m a conservative free spirit, and I think that gives me some good balance, so as far as being spontaneous and enjoying life, I’m all for that. But, I’d much rather be spontaneous and live in the moment when a situation feels promising, and I know that ultimately it could lead to something in the future.


I think that it’s good to have goals in life. This even goes for when it comes to your romantic life. You should have an idea of what you like, what you don’t, and what you want to happen in your future. When you know what you want in your life, you’re able to create a game plan, and go after whatever it is. You can’t not know what you want in life, and expect a game plan to suddenly happen at the age of 40 when you’re finally thinking about settling down, and getting married. You’ll end up being shunned, turned down, and no one will understand why you waited so long to even think about going after your romantic goals.


This is why it’s imperative to have a balanced life starting out when we we’re young in life. A truly balanced life means that you make time for everything that’s important to you, including your romantic love life. You shouldn’t postpone creating a game plan or having goals of what you want in life. As well, you should never exclude something that you know one day will be one of the most important parts of your life. Having a romantic love life is imperative for you, me, and everyone in this world.


I don’t think anyone starts out in life at a young age thinking or having the mentality of, “I want to be a bachelor for the remainder of my life.” These are feelings that we’ve created or come up with because of experiences that we’ve gone through or even from experiences that we’ve seen others go through. It’s important to have an open heart, and to make time for falling in love. We shouldn’t wait till we’re older to create a game plan or to have some idea of what we’re looking for in a partner. Postponing something that could bring about the most happiness in your life would be a mistake if you’d ask me.


If you want to experience true happiness in this world, then you should make sure that part of your life is dedicated to having and maintaining a partner that you know you can call your other half, your best friend, and the love of your life. Nothing will bring about more happiness than to share your life with someone that you love, trust, and one you can count on for nearly anything in life.


If you’re having hard times in life, your partner can be there by your side to lift up your spirits, to be a shoulder to cry on, or even just to listen to you so that you’re not alone. A partner for life is someone that can be your best friend so that you’ll never feel alone. But most of all, a partner is someone that will stand by your side through good times, bad times, and through all of life’s twists and turns.


You can’t expect to have a perfect relationship, so it’s important not to strive for that. But when you’re with your best possible match, that person will “get” you, and make you feel whole and complete even more than you might’ve thought possible. Your partner in life should bring about more happiness in your life, and make you feel that they add to your life in many ways. Being with the right match shouldn’t be so difficult where you need to dissect and explain every fine detail of why you feel what you feel, why you do what you do, or why your morals and values are what they are.


Don’t get me wrong, because communication is everything, and it takes a lot of healthy communication to develop a healthy and happy relationship. However, when you’re with your best possible match, and a person that really gets you, it takes much less effort to explain things. You see, when you’re with the right person, things usually flow, fit, and seem more natural. The right person won’t drain your energy, bring you down, or make you feel that your ways aren’t right.


Your best possible match is going to have your back, and agree with you on almost all of the things that are likely important to you in life. This doesn’t mean that you’re going to agree with your partner on everything. Agreeing on everything isn’t something rare, but it’s actually something unusual, odd, and impossible. Having said that, when you’re with the right person, you’ll have your differences of opinions, but you’ll be able to express yourself, and communicate those differences in a way in which your partner will be able to handle your differences, without treating you poorly or judging you for feeling the ways that you do.


Being in a healthy and happy relationship takes hard work, even when you’re with your best possible match. You see, being with your best possible match means that you found a partner that you can build a life with, create with, and overcome any, and all of life’s struggles with. You can’t expect everything in life to go smoothly, where there are no problems or issues. It’s all about the way that couples handle difficult times, and how they maintain their relationship through those hard times. That’s what’s really important.


Having a partner in life is something that we all hope to have. However, picking the right person can make all of the difference in the amount of ease, flow, and happiness that you’ll experience together. Think twice before settling or jumping into any relationship, just so that you won’t be alone. You should never have to settle for less than your best possible match. I’m sure not going to.

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Anne Cohen

Founder, Owner, Writer, and Editor at Anne Cohen Writes
Anne Cohen is a lifestyle and relationship blogger based in Los Angeles, CA. Her blogs are Anne Cohen and Anne Cohen Writes. She contributes to various publications including The Huffington Post, Elite Daily, and many more. She's passionate about love, writing, chess, and more than anything, her two kids.
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2 thoughts on “I Want Someone Who ‘Gets’ Me

  1. Speaking as someone who had a soulmate, I can honestly tell you that having someone ‘who totally gets you’ isn’t always enough. A person can know you as well you know yourself, but that doesn’t always mean they’re going to understand every little thing that you do or say. It just means they’re willing to love you and accept your flaws no matter what. No questions asked.

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