When you spend a certain amount of time with someone, there needs to be a point of making up your mind as to whether or not to be with them in an exclusive relationship. You can’t expect to endlessly date a person without it leading to something more, if that’s what someone ultimately wants. It’s imperative to be on the same page as far as being in an exclusive relationship. However, when someone can’t make up their mind as to whether or not they want you to be that person to explore it with, you need to make an authoritative decision for yourself, and stick to it.
Many times other people’s wishy-washy minds and confusion exude onto us, and then we start getting confused and unsure about what to do ourselves. This can be incredibly draining. It’s important not to let other people’s confusion and indecisiveness take over our own paths, minds, and lives. Nothing feels good about standing still for too long or even being in a place where we feel that we’re not going anywhere in life. When people seem confused for too long, there needs to come a point when you take matters into your own hands. No one likes to feel as though they’re being played with. Wasting a person’s time could make anyone feel that way. So, if you feel as though your partner isn’t being fair and is wasting your time, take over, and start being the decision maker for your own life, instead of letting a confused, indecisive, unsure person run the show.
Don’t let yourself get caught up in other people’s confusion and indecisiveness. We should feel clarity and certainty about what we want, and where we desire to go. And how long you’re willing to wait is really up to you. But I can honestly tell you that if you wait too long, your life is going to pass you by and you’ll be missing out on a lot of moments where you could be experiencing a certain amount of happiness, whereas instead, you’ll likely be left feeling miserable, empty, incomplete, and even alone.
Nothing is worse than dating someone that feels indecisive all of the time. I highly recommend being with the type of person who’s going to appreciate you and value your time, and your very being, enough that they won’t take you for granted, and where they make you feel special, and as a priority—like they should. Be with the type of person that’s going to appreciate you and treat you as a priority. Don’t waste your time worrying, overthinking, and analyzing why a person isn’t making up their mind as to whether or not they want to be with you.
You should only be with someone that wants to be with you, and that makes you special. Don’t be with someone that will waste your time or with someone that can’t recognize a good thing when they see it. Let people go when they want to go, and when they’re confused as to whether or not you’re the right person for them, maybe you need to decide for yourself; maybe they’re not right for you. If someone is truly confused and for a prolonged period of time about whether or not they want you in their life or to even explore a relationship with you, then I’d highly suggest simply moving on. We all need to appreciate what we have when we have it, not take others for granted, and definitely never waste our time with people that don’t value us, our time, and are very essence.
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