Don’t settle. If you’re unsure about whether you and someone are compatible enough to go forward and ready to take the next step, take a deep breath, and take a step back. Once you’re clear, then make a decision and talk with the person so they have clarity and know what’s going on. If you act abruptly and make a decision too quickly about someone, then you might regret it. Have no regrets by simply taking a second, and giving yourself a moment to think. You’re allowed to think without being pressured or even pressuring yourself to decide quickly.
So, now that you are definitely giving yourself a moment to think and decide what’s best for you, what is best for you? You should know what you want in a partner. You should also know what works well for you in a relationship and what doesn’t. The next thing you should figure out is whether someone is almost the right fit for you romantically, close to the right fit (a good fit), or not a very good fit at all.
For me, personally, I would never settle for those two puzzle pieces that “almost” fit. I want to be with my soulmate… that perfect fit.
You can’t force a connection, it’s either there or it’s not.
EQ (emotional intelligence) is very important. As is connecting with your partner on as many levels as possible. You should be with someone who just “gets you.” Sometimes it’s hard to tell whether someone is emotionally unintelligent or whether they’re just incompatible with you. For some couples, no matter how hard they try, their partner just doesn’t seem to understand what they’re trying to say or express, and why they would feel the way they do about certain things. This even goes for when someone is being completely direct in their approach. It’s almost as if they simply aren’t connecting with you on certain levels. Especially, when you feel that those particular levels are imperative to connect on.
You should figure out what’s most important for you to have in a partner. The truth is, couples need to truly understand each other. And although every relationship involves work, it shouldn’t be so hard that you feel that you can’t emotionally breathe and feel you need constantly need to explain reasons for being just you. You should be able to connect with someone to a certain extent that you both feel at ease, heard, and where aren’t disagreeing on every little thing.
Do opposites attract or are we even compatible?
There’s a big difference between opposites attracting from being totally incompatible. It’s important to acknowledge your differences and see if they’re things you can live with. When things are right in relationships, there are still usually hard times and issues along the way. Nothing will always be easy. But generally speaking, during early dating, things should naturally flow to some extent. One thing is for sure, and that’s the fact that couples should connect, and not be made to feel as if they’re crazy or stupid for having different feelings or opinions than their partner. If you’re feeling that your partner never really understands you on an emotional level, or on a level that’s of great importance to you, you might want to reevaluate your relationship altogether.
You’re not meant to be with everyone, just one person.
Whether you have the same interests as another person or whether or not you look good together in other people’s eyes, it doesn’t really matter. You and your partner will know whether or not you get along, and after getting to know them on a deeper level, you’ll see just how compatible you really are. You need to do what makes you happy and be with someone who shares your interests for the most part and embraces the way you think and act. The same goes for when your partner doesn’t like or agree with everything that you say or do. No one is going to be identical to their partner, and no, not even to their soulmate. Being soulmates doesn’t mean that you literally are or become one person. It means that you’re two different people that complement one another in such a way that everything feels just right.
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