The Power of Closeness



From the time that we’re all born, we all need to feel loved. There are many ways in which a person can feel loved. But mostly, it’s from someone’s words, actions, and through affection. Another thing that we must all feel is closeness. Being single isn’t necessarily a bad thing, if that’s what someone chooses to be. But generally speaking, we all need to feel loved, and a big part of feeling loved is by feeling close to someone.

The Different Types of Closeness

There are many types of closeness that can provide a feeling of love. One of the ways of feeling close to someone is by holding hands or kissing. Another way is by hugging them, and for some, cuddling will do the trick. There’s an incredible power to an embrace. For many people, merely giving someone a teddy bear type of hug with all of your heart can cure their sad feelings, their loneliness, their depression, or ease their anxiety. But most of all, it can make them feel loved. For some people, intimacy and making love is a way of feeling close to someone.

For some people, it merely takes someone to show them that they’re proud of them, by doing things like being close in public, being exclusive to one another, displaying public affection, and going public throughout social media (which might not be the best thing). For some people, all of the above are ways of feeling close to someone. Despite whichever way that makes someone feel close to another, it’s important to realize that we all have our own particular ways of doing things, our own idiosyncrasies, and our own views when it comes to what makes you feel close to someone.

How Close Is Too Close?

Every person feels differently about closeness, and how much is needed. But, the one thing that we all have in common is that we all want to feel loved. For some people, cuddling is a huge part of making love. For others, not so much. Sure, you can say that perhaps you’re not a big cuddler, and you might prefer to go to sleep instantly after being intimate with someone. But the truth is, if that sounds like you, you might not need that much closeness, or at least not as much as your partner might.

For many people, closeness is imperative, and means a great deal in order for them to feel loved. It’s important to talk to your partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancé, or spouse about how much closeness is important to one another. Both people should feel happy, satisfied, and loved in a relationship. In relationships, there should always be a healthy balance between giving and receiving. If you truly love someone, you want them to be happy, and it’s important to alter certain things in order to please each other. Part of loving someone, is knowing how to love them. We all feel love in different ways, so it’s important to take your partner’s feelings into consideration, and love them the way that they need to be loved, and in a way in which they’ll feel your love.

Relationships are about give and take, and it’s important for both people to feel equally satisfied. Relationships that are one-sided simply don’t work. For people that are dating and thinking about getting into a relationship where intimacy is involved, consider bringing up the topic of how much closeness your partner feels is a healthy amount, and how much closeness would be enough to make them feel satisfied. See what your partner says, and see if how you both feel matches up. Even if you’re married, bringing up this topic can actually be beneficial and help improve the closeness within your relationship.

Anne Cohen
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112 thoughts on “The Power of Closeness

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  5. Anne, This article couldn’t be written much better!
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  16. Although both people have their own ways and what feels right to them as far as how close is good and how close is too close, there should be a good medium where they can compromise.

  17. I love this Anne! You’re so talented at writing. Closeness is so important. I agree about discussing things like things with your loved one so that like you always say, “be on the same page.” 😉 – Jenia

  18. Great writing Anne! It’s true that we all feel a different amount of closeness is best. We like what we like! 😉

  19. It’s very true. I agree that people need to feel close to their partner, but in a way so that they’ll feel at ease and comfortable. For me, there is such a thing as too close and that’s when I feel smothered. I want my man to be independent too like me. If he starts getting clingy (and many times they do), it just annoys the heck outta me. Nice Article. 🙂

  20. I agree. It’s a great idea to discuss this with your spouse or significant other. Talking and communicating feelings , likes, and dislikes is what makes a relationship happier. Communication is key.

  21. Feeling close to someone is only something I can dream of at this point in my life. Getting too old and been divorced twice.

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  24. if you smother your partner when they feel differently about the amount of closeness they’ll likely break up with you or at least end up feeling miserable and maybe even distancing themselves. Hmm. Can you tell I’ve been there, done that?!

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  26. Great post Anne! Love your work and look forward to reading your latest posts. I just subscribed. 😉

  27. Sweet post! I couldn’t agree more on this. Closeness and how close you get to someone all depends on each person individually.

  28. So true Anne. When it comes to writing about this subject, you’re on point. Relationships take hard work and if people aren’t willing to compromise and love each other the way that they need to feel loved and comfortable, no one will be happy. Great post!

  29. Hi Anne. I just want to tell you how much I appreciate your writing. You help me so much, and I feel so thankful for having found your blog. 🙂

    Wishing you much love and success.


  30. Such a beautiful piece. Getting to the point in a relationship where both people feel close on every possible level is when a relationship feels fully whole and complete. Love this post! Keep up the great writing Anne!!

    – Willie 😉

  31. When you look at the way you write, you’d think you were much older. Anyway, that’s meant to be a compliment. 😉

  32. This just reminds me of why I didn’t get along with my ex. Couples need to know how close each other feels comfortable and what’s too close. I think sometimes, we just assume that we think ust like our boyfriend or girlfriend, but we have our own opinions as to what feels comfortable.

  33. There’s a whole world of articles on relationships and dating, but it’s nice when you find one that doesn’t try to act arrogant and like a know it all. Your writing is truly very refreshing Anne.

  34. Having an successful relationship definitely takes closeness, affection, and intimacy. But both people in a relationship should be willing to compromise as far as how close is good. Nice article. tnx

  35. Indeed, it takes two people in relationships and we need to make sure we’re giving enough or not too much closeness.

  36. I love your blog! It’s so cool. I thought all blogs were just for beauty and fashion, so it’s cool to find out that there’s such a thing as a relationship blogger. 🙂 I just subscribed!

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  37. Nice article. My dating life is kinda blah right now but it’s nice to read your articles. I kinda feel like there’s hope. lol

  38. Love this article. I found you through Facebook in one of the groups. Your posts are great! 🙂


  39. My boyfriend likes public affection and I can honestly say that he views it as so important. He thinks I don’t like him enough if I don’t get close with him. But I really feel like it shouldn’t matter if I’m publicly affectionate, as long as I’m affectionate when we’re alone. Wish I knew how to make it work better. I like your writing and the article. If you can help me, I’d appreciate it.

  40. While there’s some truth that being on the same page is important, sometimes we need to accept that people have their differences and we all want different levels of closeness. Great article!
    Lila xoxo

  41. I’ve been in a relationship on and off for about 2 years now,, and the only reason at this point that we keep going back and forth is because we have such great chemistry. But the truth is, if we didn’t have the same feelings about getting close when we’d make up, we probably never get back together, and now we’re engaged. We’ve worked through so many of our issues, but being close and having “make up” time after fighting is so important to keep the fire alive. Tis article just reminds me about why closeness is so important.

  42. It’s true. What might be just the right amount of closeness to one person might feel like too much closeness to the next.

  43. Great post Anne! I totally agree. Closeness is so important since we’re born until we get old. Love your writing!

  44. Anne, this is so well written. Being determined and going after what you want is definitely what it takes. Keep up the great writing!

  45. It’s so true. we all have our different boundaries and feelings of how close is too close. I was just talking about this with my husband,and I’m so happy we’re on the same page in this regard.

  46. Trying to get my boyfriend to read your posts. I might have to force him to read this one. lol Love it! 🙂

  47. Ultimately, it can’t be stressed enough that relationships take hard work and effort. Closeness goes without saying. We all need it and want it.

  48. A big part of relationships is getting close but also when both people are ready. I hate when guys rush me and aren’t patient. I always say, what’s the hurry. Great post, thanks

  49. There is so much I like about this article. It’s so accurate and on point. People want closeness at different amounts and at their own pace. I think that many times people don’t realize that relationships take two people feeling happy and satisfied.

  50. Great writing Anne. I love how you write in a way that’s so easy to connect and understand. Keep it up!

  51. In any situation, people need to feel comfortable. If you move too quickly and try to be intimate with someone before they’re ready, they’ll accuse of you of pressuring them. i prefer that girls take the lead when you just start dating. It gets annoying when girls say no, no, no, and push me away. I decided taht they need to make the first move.

  52. You can’t expect to be exactly like your girlfriend or boyfriend when it comes to the levels of closeness that are comfortable. This is very accurate and quite frankly I’m surprised more articles haven’t been written about this subject. Good stuff.

  53. For me, a main part of the love our partner’s give us depends on how much affection and if there’s any affection at all. A lot of people want to be in relationships these days and get too close too quickly, but relationships shouldn’t be based on getting intimate. They should be based on love and feelings.

  54. So true Anne. For me personally, I find that genuine closeness comes after spending a long time with someone and you get a chance to really get to know them.

  55. Being in a relationship for 7 years now, and I can honestly say that it’s those moments of closeness when we sleep, hug, and make up after arguments that makes us even closer. Nice writing.

  56. In the event of getting into new relationships, being close by showing your affection is everything, and kissing is a big must!

  57. It’s so true Anne, relationships can’t be one-sided and both people need to put effort into maintaining things including closeness and what’s involved.

  58. I really like this post. I m glad because I found your blog. I hope read more post like this from you. Thank you so much

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