When it comes to dating tips, there are five tips that I’m going to share with you in which I’d have to say, are not only tips, but essential, if you have hopes to finding your best possible match and to have a solid and strong foundation for a healthy relationship. The following is a list of five things that should be pillars to hold together what could be the beginning of a beautiful relationship. If these five things aren’t present, things will likely fall apart or stay together, but not without some unnecessary and unfortunate drama. Let a beautiful new beginning happen by being a good person and by following these simple tips.
1. Be honest
Be honest from the get go. Nothing is more destructive than bringing lies into a new situation. Lying, and yes, even white lying, can destroy what could be a beautiful new beginning. Think about it! You have a clean slate, nothing has gone wrong, and the right person should accept you for all of you, the good and the bad. You shouldn’t have to put on an act or pretend to be someone or something that you’re not. Be you, all you, and the best possible version of you. But be you, without having to lie or dress things up.
2. Be authentic
Again, this routes back to being honest. be honest and true to yourself by keeping it real. Now, when I say to keep it real, that doesn’t mean that you should be in-your-face-New-York-City-Bronx real (no offense, cute accent). But seriously, why should anyone have to cover up the beautiful soul who we’re trying to truly get to know and possible fall in love with. Don’t be fake or lie to others when trying to reel them in to like you. Let people fall in love with you, and who you are at your core. Let them get to know who you are on a deeper level, your core, your morals, your values, and without having to impress them with superficial things or by telling them what you think they’d like to hear.
3. Be humble
I don’t care what you’ve achieved, what you look like, or what you have, because if you prance around on your high horse showing off, with your chin up to the sky as you brag about it all or try to portray that you’re hot shit, I’m gonna look in another direction. No one likes an arrogant donkey, and no one wants to be in a relationship with one or Heaven forbid, married to one either. Be sweet and humble, and let people love you for you, and yes, all of you, but without you acting like you’re possessed with arrogance, where every statement out of your mouth is like a goat spitting out one hubris statement after another.
People like kindness and acts of love, but more so, when they’re done with humility and a humble attitude. And trust me when I say this—having a beautiful life that you’ve built for yourself, whether in business or in your appearance and whatnot is awesome! I mean, come on! Who doesn’t want to be with someone who worked hard to get to where they are in life, has a prestigious job, or even better, worked their way to the top and feels great about their achievements. Anyone would be honoured and proud to be with someone as such. But be humble and let others appreciate you, despite that you have a great self-esteem and feel proud. Good! Great! Be proud of yourself! You should be! But, until someone knows you on a deeper level, be cautious so that you don’t come across as arrogant.
4. Know what you want and have pure intentions
And here we go again… This also routes back to being honest. Honesty is everything. So be pure with your intentions. Having pure intentions means being honest about what you want when it comes to now, and in your future. Don’t lie or manipulate people in order to get what you want. Don’t lie to others or to yourself about your intentions. Be pure, decent, and honest so that you don’t hurt others. Know what you want in life, in love, and in your best possible match, or at the very least, have some idea of what you’re looking for. As well, you should have some idea of what works for you and what doesn’t in a relationship, so that things go smoothly, and so that you don’t waste anyone’s time. Don’t mislead others when you see a red flag or know that certain qualities or characteristics in someone won’t work for you.
5. Be polite, respectful, and have good manners
It doesn’t matter whether you’re a woman or a man. If you have bad manners, it’s ugly. Learn to be polite and respectful to others. Be a good conversationalist by talking, listening, and asking good questions. Don’t pry into someone’s past or into their life in any way. Let people open up to you at a pace that they’re comfortable with opening up. Don’t dig or pry to learn about someone. Ask questions, but do so in a respectful way. After all, you don’t know how someone will feel if you ask certain intimate questions too early on. Know the difference between what’s appropriate to ask and what’s not during early dating.
To men and women, be polite. Get your damn elbow off of the table! O.K., let me try that again… Kindly, take your elbows off of the table. But seriously, have good manners when you go out on a date, and always (Click here)! Table manners are a good sign of either being raised well or from teaching yourself how to act in public. As well, they show that you care about how you present yourself. It’s not an act when it’s something that you’re doing to show respect, even if it doesn’t come naturally. Being authentic and keeping it real doesn’t mean being rude or disrespectful.
When it comes to how you act on a date, think before you speak and act. Just like at all other times and on all other occasions in life, be polite. And remember, you should be polite and kind to waiters and all workers. You should treat them as if they’re no different than you or me, because the reality is, they aren’t different. They are you and me. They are people, and all people deserve to be respected and treated as a King or Queen just as much as anyone else. Workers are not your servants (go back to number 3). And last but not least, ladies and gentlemen, say your please’s and thank you’s and show some appreciation for the love of G-d!
Remember, new beginnings are like fresh, clean slates and a brand new chance to start all over. We get new beginnings every time that we wake up in the morning. But when it comes to dating someone new, not everyone has a forgiving heart and will give others second, third, or more chances. This is why it’s important to care about how we present ourselves, and put some effort into making a good first impression. Be kind and caring about how you act, what you say, and what you do. Treat others how you’d want to be treated. And until you truly know someone on a deeper level, you simply won’t know, and that’s why it’s imperative to be sweet, caring, and the best version of yourself.
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